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SMS Magnetico™ por Alex Rio (Bobby Rio)

“i use texting as
a replacement
for meaningful
conversation”
—Anonymous

“You understand that the
information contained in this book is an opinion, and
it should be used for personal entertainment purposes
only. You are responsible for your own behavior, and
none of this book is to be considered legal or personal
advice.”

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Table of Contents
Part 1: Introduction...The Principles of Phone Game

Welcome to Phone Game.................................................................7
A Quick Word on the Terms & Phrases in this Book..............................10
Just like Pizza: The Three Ingredients of Attractive Phone Use....13
Sparking Emotions: The Dough of Phone Use......................................15
Making Connections: Adding Some Sauce..........................................17
Handling Logistics: The Cheese on Top.................................................19
The Three Ingredients: Further Defined.........................................22
Sparking an Emotion: Stand Out with Language.........................22
Making Connections: Be Specific...................................................25
Handling Logistics: Ask—and Ask Well.............................................27
When and How Much: Phases of a Textship.......................................28

Part 2: First Phase...You Want to Date Her

Got Her Number...Now What?..................................................29
First Text: Stick to the Formula......................................................31
When to Text—and What to Expect..........................................35
First Text Blues: Troubleshooting the First Text.............................38
“Who is this?” How to Respond............................................38
“What Do You Look Like?” How to Proceed................................42
Meeting Up With Her: The Key-lock Sequence...........................45
Avoid Becoming Her New “Texting Buddy”.....................................45
TheKey-LockSequence—Key-Turn-Push..............................................48
If She’s Difficult: Getting Out Flaky and Unresponsive Girls......59
What if She Doesn’t Respond..........................................................59
Low Interest: How to Get Her Excited for a Date.............................62
Some Interest: Getting More of a Connection....................................72
Overcoming Time: How to Revive an Old Number.................................76

Girls You’re Unable to Meet: The Holding Pattern................................79

The Bad Behavior Files: When Good Girls Go Bad...........................82
Shred-Her Negative Response...........................................................83
Pop Culture Sniper Shot and Scattershot...................................85
Overcoming Excuses: Changing Her Mind........................................94
When to Call: The Final Resort.................................................98

Part 3: Second Phase...You are Sort of Dating Her

First Date and Beyond...................................................................102
Arriving to the Date: Set Yourself Up for Success..................105
Getting the Second Date: Keeping Her Interested and Invested..108
The Days After: How to Keep It Sizzling.................................108
Setting Up the Second Date............................................................112
Texting a Girl You Just Slept With..................................................116
Bantering with Her: The Art of Bullshitting...............................119
How to Compliment in an Attractive Way....................................119
How to Create Anticipation...............................................................124
HowtobeFunny.................................................................................127
Calling to Connect: Using the Phone to have a Conversation........131

Part 4: Third Phase...You’re Dating Her

Creating a Relationship................................................................133
Calling Because You Care................................................................135
Keeping It Fun: Maintain the Spark of Your Relationship.........137
Use Typos as Comedy Cues......................................................138
Have a “Style”.................................................................................143
Avoiding Patterns........................................................................145
Keeping It Sexual: How to Heat Things Up Over the Phone.........150
How to Begin Sexting.....................................................................150
Bringing Up Threesomes.................................................................154

GettingHertoSendNakedPictures......................................................158

Keeping It Real: How to Bring Your Relationship to Life..................161
GenuineCompliments........................................................................161
Finally,Don’tForgettoKeepHandlingLogistics!....................................165

Part 5: Appendix...Common Questions & Mistakes

“But What About...”........................................................................167
Phone Bloopers: Avoiding Common Mistakes of Phone Game...178

Part 6: Final Thoughts...Afterword from Rob

DialingEmotion.................................................................................185

introduction...

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The Principles of Phone Game

Welcome to Phone Game

Y

ou’ve probably never thought about it, but the cell
phone has revolutionized dating. Our cell phones
act as our pocket dating secretaries. They organize
our contacts, take messages, and screen our calls.
Most importantly, they add another stage to the
dating process: phone game.
Before cell phones, talking on the phone was straightforward.
You called. You spoke. You made plans.
Today, things aren’t so simple—and that can be a good thing.
Phone game—when applied correctly—gives you another
chance. It rights some wrongs. It can even become an “extra

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life.”
Conversely, weak phone game can cause a woman to secondguess herself, change her mind, and even “flake”—which
means abruptly canceling on you and sometimes even ignoring you altogether.
Like it or not, phone game has made dating a three-part process:
1. Initial meeting
2. Phone game
3. The date
While the initial meeting sets much of her expectations for
this “three act play,” improving your phone game can dramatically increase how many girls meet you for a date. Moreover,
phone game will improve the quality of those dates by exciting a woman beforehand. Undoubtedly learning to use your
phone in an attractive way will boost your dating success.
Proper phone game is more than just pressing buttons or making phone calls. Solid phone game comes from an understanding of attractive communication. In fact, practicing phone game
is one of the fastest ways to improve the way you communicate with women.
That’s because, when using your phone, time is on your side.
Everything that happens over the phone happens slower than

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a face-to-face interaction. You can put more consideration into
what you say, what she says, and how to respond. These lowpressure situations will make you a better communicator with
women. With that in mind, this book is written with two goals:
1. Using your phone to get you enjoying more success with
women right now, and
2. Teaching you the principles of attractive communication—when using the phone and beyond.
This book will supply you with plenty of examples and templates, as well as a step-by-step game plan, so you can instantly improve your phone game. If you just send the “prescribed”
texts from this book, you’ll enjoy a significant boost in your
dating success.
More important though, this book will strengthen your understanding and application of attractive communication. You
will learn the principles and dynamics that constitute flirting,
bantering, making a connection, and humor.
You are going to learn how to better relate to women from a
classroom that fits into the palm of your hand. If you stick with
this book for just three months, you will transform your interactions with women. Phone game is much more than simply
using your phone. It’s about using language in an attractive
and effective way.

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A Quick Word on the Terms & Phrases in this Book

M

ore than anything, phone game should be fun.
When you have a woman’s number, you have
a unique opportunity to interact with her on
your time. All the nervousness and awkwardness of an in-person interaction falls away
when you pull out your phone.
Therefore, you should see phone game as enjoyable—not a
chore. To underscore the fun aspect of phone game, this book
has it’s own set of words and phrases. The purpose of this
“phone game vocabulary” is simply to remind you that it’s just
a game. Enjoy yourself and don’t take it too seriously!
Cinderella Effect—A “phenomenon” that commonly happens when meeting girls at bars and nightclubs, where
a woman seems like a total sweetheart the night you
meet her. But, when you try to contact her afterwards,
she turns into something else. Whether she turns mean,
cold, disinterested, or just nonresponsive, she’s displaying the “Cinderella Effect.”
The Sixth Sense Syndrome—Like Bruce Willis’ character

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in the movie The Sixth Sense, you become like a ghost
to women whose numbers you get. When you call or
text them, their lack of response makes you feel as if
you don’t even exist. Unlike that creepy little kid from
the movie, she DOES NOT “see” dead people!
Chasing the Loss—A gambling term that refers to the fatal mistake of frantically trying to win back your losses.
Likewise, guys will sometimes overuse their phone in
a vain attempt to recover the attraction or connection
they feel they lost. Chasing the loss is an important concept to grasp, as it’s much better to step away from a
situation temporarily, and return to it when you’re more
coolheaded.
Touch Points—The various different modes of communication outside simply using your phone. Examples of
common touch points are email, Facebook, and instant
messenger.
Pulling the Trigger—A phrase that describes taking the
initiative and proposing a date or meet up. Often guys
neglect to “pull the trigger” or wait too long to do so,
and so end up as a girl’s “phone buddy.”
Key-Lock Sequence—The specific 3-text sequence you
apply when setting up a date. The key-lock sequence
should be applied very early in an interaction—and constantly. The key-lock sequence combines all 3 ingredi-

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ents of phone game (which you will read about below).
Play the Numbers—When you text unresponsive girls
fun and humorous texts. You never know when one of
those numbers will “hit” and you end up on a date with
a girl you thought was ignoring you.
Radar Texts—The initial text that simply “gets on a
woman’s radar.” These texts are sent without expecting a response. Radar texts always end with your name
because it’s always the first text you send a woman you
just met.
Holding Pattern—A series of texts you send a woman
that you are waiting to meet up with. Holding patterns
are used on women who leave town for a few weeks,
live in other cities, or have some other issue that prevents you from seeing them in the near future.
Shred-Her Responses—A proven response that “shreds”
a woman’s objections, flakiness, or bad behavior.

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Just like Pizza:

The Three Ingredients of Attractive Phone Use

T

he next time you’re staring at your phone, wondering what to text a girl, think of pizza. I know it sounds
strange, but using your phone can be as simple as
remembering the ingredients of pizza, which are
dough, tomato sauce, and cheese.

Likewise, there are only three “ingredients” to phone and text
game:
1.
2.
3.

Sparking emotions
Making connections
Handling logistics

These three ingredients are the fundamentals of using your
phone in an attractive way. The purpose of this book is to define each ingredient, supply plenty of examples and templates,
and explain when—and how much—to use each. If you can
do that, you will never lose another girl because of a clumsy
follow up.
Moreover, you’ll never add the wrong ingredients. Notice how
the three ingredients of phoning and texting are NOT:

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Asking questions
Providing entertainment
Acting polite
Making small talk
Offering explanations
Reciting soliloquys
Begging

Adding the wrong ingredients is like trying to make a pizza
with bananas, mustard, and pita shells. But rather than getting a disgusting dish, you get an unresponsive and uninterested girl. Using the wrong ingredients will douse whatever
sexual spark you may have had with her.
As with pizza, you can occasionally add a topping like pepperoni or peppers. With phone and text, that means it can sometimes help to banter, get logical, or do something else that
deviates from the three main ingredients. These exceptions,
however, only come after you’ve mixed the first three ingredients—just as toppings are sprinkled on top of the pizza.
At this point, with all this talk of pizza, you may find yourself
confused (or maybe even a bit hungry). In the next sections,
you will learn more about the three ingredients. The only reason for the pizza metaphor is so that you can easily remember
how to best use your phone. Once you get it, keeping girls interested becomes as easy as pie—or, in this case, pizza pie.

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Sparking Emotions: The Dough of Phone Use

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ike pizza dough, everything you do with your phone will
be built on sparking emotions. You sparked her emotions when she gave you her number, and so you must
spark her emotions again when you text her. Most of
the mistakes guys make when using the phone come
from not sparking emotions.
Often guys think they can use logic to convince a woman to
do something (like meet for a date), but this is NOT how women make romantic and sexual decisions. Whether you want a
woman to show up to a date, tell you a secret, or think about
you when you’re apart, you must begin by getting her emotional.
On text, the best way to spark emotions is through humor
and flirting. When you’re face-to-face with a woman, there
are many other ways to spark her emotions. However, when
you’re trying to elicit an emotional response using the phone,
the easiest (and safest) way to do that is to get her smiling
and laughing.
Though, sparking a woman’s emotions is more than just “be-

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ing funny.” You need to make sure you’re using the right kind
of humor and flirting. That’s why understanding subtext is so
important—especially in phone game. You’ll learn the proper
subtext in a later chapter. For now, just remember the first
principle of phone and text game:
Principle 1: If you can get her to feel an emotion, you can
capture her attention.
That may sound obvious, but so many guys overlook this first
principle. Ask yourself this: have you ever sent a first text that
said something like, “Nice meeting you” or “Hey, this is Tom”?
Or maybe you tried asking a woman out with the first text you
sent? Think back on it (and go through your old text messages
if you have to), are your first texts sparking a woman’s emotions? If you’re like most guys, the answer is probably no.
As such, she probably saw you as “just another guy.” You
didn’t make yourself stand out from the crowd. If she was
even somewhat cute, you can bet there were plenty of other
guys texting her, as well. Even if you had a great interaction
in person, an emotionless first text can cause her to secondguess her initial impression of you.
But you’re never going to make that mistake again. Just as you
can’t imagine making a pizza without the dough, you won’t
be able to fathom using your phone without first sparking an
emotion. It’s the crust on which you will layer on the other ingredients.

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Making Connections: Adding Some Sauce

A

n aspect of using the phone many guys overlook
is forming some sort of connection with the girl.
If a guy neglects this crucial ingredient, he’ll come
off as a “player,” immature, or even desperate. Either way, his chances of getting the girl are slim.

When you think of this aspect of phone game, think of cheese
bread. Without sauce, you don’t get a pizza—you get cheese
bread, which is something totally different and not nearly as
delicious as pizza. Likewise, a guy who fails to establish some
sort of connection won’t come off as an attractive guy. Instead, he’ll be seen as a desperate clown. And clowns aren’t
very attractive.
The solution is simple: add the sauce. Connecting with a girl
over something—whether it’s a common interest, inside joke,
nickname, or even something out of your imagination—is what
holds a good interaction together. It adds flavor and depth to
your communication. It gets her to see you as a real person—
which is crucial for eliminating flaking and non-responsiveness.
But this ingredient comes with a caveat: don’t do too much

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connecting over the phone. Just as too much sauce can destroy a pizza, trying too hard to establish connections with a
woman can ruin your chances. You only want a thin layer of
connecting—just enough to hold things together. Real connections aren’t made over the phone; they’re made in person.
With that in mind, here’s the second principle of phone game:
Principle 2: Forming a connection gives her a reason to
think and care about you.
By using the formulas, templates, and tips in the later chapters,
you will learn how to create a connection by either reminding
her of things you two shared or by inventing new connections.
By doing this, you demonstrate to her that you’re for real.
Whether you want a lover, date, girlfriend, or wife, establishing some sort of connection is crucial. Obviously the amount
of connecting over the phone you’d do with your girlfriend
would be different from how you’d connect with a girl you
met for 5 minutes in Starbucks. Exactly how much connecting
is appropriate during each phase of a relationship is explained
in later sections.

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Phone
likeGame
Pizza

Handling Logistics: The Cheese on Top

W

hat would pizza be without the cheese?
Likewise, phone and text game wouldn’t
work without the final ingredient: handling
logistics. That may sound like a confusing
term but handling logistics just means stuff
like setting up a time to meet, deflecting excuses, and making
sure that everything is taken care of so that when you meet in
person, she’s even more excited to see you than the last time
she saw you in person.
Very often guys add this ingredient in too late—or sometimes
not at all. If you’ve ever had a text conversation that went on
and on without ever trying to secure a meet up, you’ve made
this mistake. Using your phone is a great tool to improve your
chances with women, but if you neglect to handle logistics
then you’re just spinning your wheels.
Make sure that you’re using phone and text for its main purpose: getting dates. While using the phone is a great way to
warm women up to seeing you, it’s only a means to an end.
When you handle logistics you’re ensuring that you use this
“means” to secure a happy ending. In fact, that’s the third and

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final principle of phone game:
Principle 3: Getting an in-person meet-up (i.e., a date) is
your ultimate goal when using your phone; everything
else is just preparation to achieve that goal.
If you think about it, the other two ingredients are only necessary to “grease the wheels” for this third and final ingredient. If getting an in-person meet-up were as simple as texting
“Let’s meet tonight at 8p.m. at Tonic Lounge on 27th st” then
there would only be one ingredient of phone and text game
(and there probably wouldn’t be a need for this book!).
This, however, isn’t the case. If you’ve ever tried to work a
woman’s phone number before, you probably know that
things aren’t this simple. Even when you apply all three ingredients, you may still run into hurdles. Sometimes getting a girl
to see you again can be challenging. If, however, you know
how to handle logistics, then you’ll know how to make it happen—no matter what.
Moreover, you can use this ingredient liberally. Just like “extra
cheese” makes for a great pizza, handling logistics early and
often improves your chances with women. Most guys think
they should only ask for a meet up or date when they think
she’ll say yes. That’s the wrong attitude!
Remember, handling logistics is an ingredient. Therefore, it’s
no different from flirting or making a connection. Sometimes

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girls purposely turn you down the first few times you invite
them out. As long as you don’t get angry or upset, it won’t
matter. You’ll get these girls out. But you have to treat handling logistics as an ingredient—not as a make-or-break moment.
These three simple ingredients are all you’ll ever need when
using your phone. Any communication that falls outside these
three ingredients isn’t necessarily wrong, but it should be
thought of as a “topping” and not “the pizza.” More important, you must have the three ingredients in place before you
start adding toppings. Therefore, until you’ve sparked an emotion, made a connection, and handled logistics, do not try anything else. It’ll only end up working against you.

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Further Defined

Sparking an Emotion: Stand Out with Language

O

n an average day, what gets you to stop what
you’re doing and pay attention? It may be hard
to remember the last time something gripped
you so much that it interrupted your day. Maybe
it was an advertisement for a movie you’ve been
waiting to see. Maybe it was a funny looking dog. Maybe it the
sight of hot woman dressed sexy.
If you think about it, things that get you to stop have two
things in common:
1.
2.

They’re different, and
They’re exciting

Most days, your daily routine takes over, and you tune out distractions. But every once in a while, something comes along

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that captures your full attention. To do this using your phone,
you must learn how to craft your language so that it stops a
woman cold, sparks an emotion, and makes her interested in
what you have to say.
When you’re considering the language of a “sparking emotions” text, some questions you should be asking yourself are:
• What is new, different, or interesting about what I’m
writing?
• What “mental pictures” are my words painting?
• Is this clear? Will she immediately “get” what I’m trying to say?
• Does this sound like something “every other guy”
would write?
If you’re still confused—don’t worry. You will learn more about
sparking emotions in the later sections as well as through the
examples. But, to help get you thinking more “emotionally”
right now, here are some ways to instantly improve the uniqueness of your language:
• Substitute signs for words. For example, rather than
using words like “is,” “was,” or “are” substitute in “=”
signs (e.g., “Our meeting last night = awesome”; “Me =
hung over this morning!”).

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• Begin with verbs, exclamations, or one-word sentences. For example, you can begin a text with an irregular
verb like “bump” as in “Bump some R. Kelly for me…”
or you can even break a sentence into smaller sentences: “Bump. Some. K. Kelly. For me.”
• Start with “mock drama.” For example, you can text
something like, “It’s over” or even “I hate you” to immediately get an emotional response. (Warning: a
woman should know you’re teasing her when you send
these texts, so quickly follow up with a text that makes
it clear that you don’t actually hate her, etc.)
• Add funny phrases to simple statements. For example,
you can “jazz up” any noun by adding a phrase like “…
crafted by the Hand of God” as in “Just had an omelet
crafted by the Hand of God. Delicious!”

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Making Connections: Be Specific

T

he most important aspect of making a connection is
genuineness. Rather than thinking of making a connection with a girl as a “tactic,” you should want to
get to know her out of curiosity. If a genuine interest
isn’t driving you to text this girl, why are you texting
her in the first place?
Thus, you probably do have a genuine curiosity for the women
you text. Your problem is that you don’t know how to leverage that curiosity in an attractive way. To solve that problem,
you just need to get more specific—especially in two areas:
1.
2.

Make specific inside jokes, and
Ask specific questions

Here’s a brief explanation of how to use each:
Inside Jokes: Hopefully when you interact with women
face-to-face, you’re establishing little “inside jokes” between the two of you. This can be as simple as saying
something like, “How good are you on text? Why do I
have a sneak suspicion that you’re like Shakespeare on

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text…?” when you’re asking for her number. If a woman
laughs as you’re saying that, you have an “inside joke.”
Later in this book, you’ll read a case study where I said
I’m a “total text addict” as I was getting a girl’s number.
So, fittingly, my first text to her was, “I’m indulging my
text addiction just for you.” Immediately, that text recalled the fun she had with me, and further connected
us. No other guy could have texted her that. That was a
joke only she and I shared.
Likewise, you will have your specific “inside jokes” that
only you and a woman share. Use them!
Questions: To make your questions more specific, add
reasons. Adding “reasons” just means telling her why
you’re asking her questions. For example, most guys
ask women, “Where are you from?” But a better way to
ask that question is, “Where are you from? Your accent
sounds interesting.” When you add a reason to your
question, she’ll want to know why you’re asking your
questions.
Moreover, when you ask her questions with reasons,
you invite the most common female response, which is,
“Why do you think that?” Whenever a woman asks you
questions like this, she’s inviting you to strengthen your
connection with her.

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Handling Logistics: Ask—and Ask Well

T

he most important aspect of handling logistics is actually pulling the trigger. Too often guys play proverbial “grab ass” with women on the phone, entertaining long text conversations that only serve
to make her realize that she’s never going to meet
up with them.

Don’t fall into this trap. Ask women out fast and often. “Fast”
means you shouldn’t let more than a few texts go by without
proposing a date; “often” means you shouldn’t let a “rejection” bother you. The most important thing is to pull the trigger and ask—not whether or not she said yes. As long as a
woman keeps interacting with you, and you keep proposing a
meet up, eventually she’s going to say yes.
Though, how you phrase your proposals can sometimes help.
If you phrase a meet up in a unique or interesting way, it can
add some emotion. Sometimes that little extra emotion will
knock a girl over the fence, and she’ll agree to see you. You’ll
see examples of this throughout the book.

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When and How Much: Phases of a Textship

F

or the purposes of this book, whenever you go from
meeting a woman to making her your girlfriend, your
relationship passes through three phases, which are:

1. You want to date her (before the first date)

2. You’re sort of dating her (between the first date and
the fourth or fifth date)
3. You are dating her (after the fifth date, or when
things get more serious)

The way you text a woman during each phase is different. Not
only does the frequency of how much you text change, but the
ratio of the three ingredients also changes. As you can probably guess, you would do much more connecting with your
girlfriend than with a woman you want to date.
We break phone and texting into these three phases to keep
things simple. With the three ingredients in mind, coupled with
your understanding of the three phases, we can now move
into the specifics of phone game. Warm up your thumbs!

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You Want

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Got Her Number...Now What?

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aybe you met her at a bar or nightclub. Maybe it was the girl from the coffee shop or the
cutie who sat next to you on the train. Or perhaps she was in one of your classes or even
a “friend-of-a-friend.” It could even be a girl
from an online dating website, who you exchanged numbers
with.
Regardless, all these girls fall into the same category: they’re
girls you want to “date”—or at least go on a date with. This
phase is where the vast majority of guys mess up and ruin their
chances with the girls they’re pursuing.

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Popular advice and conventional wisdom often stresses the
amount of time you wait before contacting her via phone or
text. If you’ve ever seen the movie Swingers, you may remember the “three-day rule,” which stipulates you must wait three
days before contacting a woman you’re interested in.
Not only is this advice wrong (you should never wait that long!),
it’s also misguided. It emphasizes timing (i.e., when you follow
up) over delivery (i.e., what you follow up with). While timing
is somewhat important, delivery is what really counts.
Attractive delivery comes from following three simple rules:
1. Avoid sending more than 2 texts without proposing a
meet up
2. Send mostly statements; avoid asking questions (especially when proposing a meet up)
3. Don’t make plans too far in advance. Ideally, text her
in the morning to meet her later in the evening, especially on a “date night” (e.g., Mondays, Tuesdays, and
Wednesdays)
You will understand these rules much better—as well as when
to break them—as you go through this chapter. Feel free to
skip ahead if you have a specific situation that requires immediate attention. But if possible, read through each section in
order to fully grasp the essence of effective follow up.

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First Text: Stick to the Formula

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t doesn’t matter if you met her in a nightclub, coffee shop,
class, through friends, or over the Internet—you should
be the one to send the initial text. Do not wait or expect
her to text you first! If she does that’s fine, but ultimately
you want to be the one leading the interaction as much as
possible.

When you send the initial text, you get to set the tone of the interaction. Often this is where guys go wrong. Many guys make
the fatal mistake of setting a logical, neutral, and/or boring
tone. Texts like, “Nice meeting you” or “Hope you got home
safe” do not get things off to a good start.
In your first text, you want to mix two of the three phone game
ingredients together: sparking emotions and making connections. In other words, you want to send a text that makes her
laugh or smile but also makes her feel as if she already has a
connection with you.
Any sort of inside joke the two of you shared works really well
here. If you’re not currently creating inside jokes with women,
start getting in the habit of it! It’s not hard to do. An inside

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joke can be anything that gets her giggling, such as:
• A nickname you gave her
• Something you teased her about (her cute accent, her
“nerd skills,” etc.)
• Something you did together that was fun (danced together, had a drink, etc.)
• A funny thing that happened
Here’s a case study along with a short explanation to illustrate
the concept of a “radar text”:

When I approached this girl, she was in a large group of
people, so to get her in a one-on-one situation away from
her friends I said, “Let’s go on a speed date.” Since she
seemed to like that idea (enough so that she ditched her
friends for me!), I used the joke again in my initial text.

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This girl and I ended up talking about French toast and how
good it is. Both of us claimed to be able to make the “best
French toast,” so we jokingly said our first date would be
a French toast making competition like “Top Chef”.
Notice how these texts spark a little emotion, establish a bit of
a connection, and end
with a little nicety (e.g.,
“When crafting an ini“fun meeting you”) and
tial text be sure to keep
a name. Radar texts
it under 5-7 lines.”
should come across as
attractive and normal.
When crafting an initial
text be sure to keep it under 5-7 lines. Also, don’t try to stuff
as many inside jokes in as possible. Keep it short, sweet, and
simple.
In a perfect world, you’d have a little inside joke with every girl
you approach. But shit happens. Sometimes you only had 30
seconds to get her number; sometimes you can’t remember
what you spoke about, etc. When this happens, don’t worry!
There’s still hope…
In these situations, simply try to spark her emotions. If you
can get her feeling good, she’ll enjoy your texts—even if she
doesn’t remember you or doesn’t recall the conversation you
had. Here’s a case study you can use (or use it to inspire your
own) of sparking an emotion with a radar text.

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Notice how this text simply makes a little flirty joke, offers
an introduction, and leaves a name. This is all you’re looking to establish in the first text! It’s an icebreaker…and
just an icebreaker. Most guys send out their first text hoping and waiting for a response. If that’s something you do
change your attitude.
The only purpose of the first radar text is exactly that: to get
on her radar. She may respond. She may not. It doesn’t matter. What matters is what you do next, which you will learn
about below.

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When to Text—and What to Expect

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t’s important you don’t let too much time elapse between
your initial meeting and your first radar text. If you wait
too long, women will sometimes forget you or think you
lack the confidence to follow up appropriately. Don’t get
obsessed with playing “head games” or turn phone game
into some elaborate pseudo-chess match where you consider
your every move.
Instead, use your phone like a normal, attractive guy. When
normal, high self-esteem people exchange contact info they
follow up with one another naturally. (Only weird manipulative nerds ponder how long to wait and try to encode and decipher hidden meaning in every text.)
A big part of this book—as well as solid phone game—is learning to use text as an extension of your playful, attractive, and
confident personality. Remember: the three ingredients of
text game don’t include such nonsense as “fake disinterest”
or manipulative strategies. That stuff is for basement-dwelling
nerds!
Therefore, you want to follow-up with a woman either the

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same day (or night) you meet her, or the day after. Waiting
an extra day isn’t the worst thing, but don’t let any more than
three days go by without sending your initial radar text.
After you send out that initial text, put your phone away and
resist the urge to check it for a response every 5 minutes. In
fact, as mentioned in the previous section, you shouldn’t expect a response at all. The beauty of sending out a radar text
is that it doesn’t require a response. You’re not asking her a
question, fishing for a compliment, or trying to make plans.
Often girls will respond to your first text. Depending on her response you can either
send back a text, or just
“Too often guys ruin their
go silent. Again, you’re
chances for a date by benot “sparking a convercoming a girl’s text friend.”
sation” with the first
text, so don’t get into a
long conversation! Too
often guys ruin their
chances for a date by becoming a girl’s text friend.
She may think your initial text was comedy gold, making her
excited to text back and forth with you. But fight the temptation to get into a long, drawn out text exchange. While it’s
gratifying in the short term, it diminishes your chances with
her in the long term. Once you get a bit more serious with a
woman, it’s fine to converse with her over text. But for now,
just send your initial text, get on her radar, and get on with

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your life.
Conversely, she may not respond to your first text. This is totally fine, too. Don’t get upset or freak out. There’s a good
chance she enjoyed your text, but just didn’t feel the need to
respond. Don’t second-guess yourself or go into a tizzy over
one unanswered text. Always remember: the first text is ONLY
meant to get on her radar.
In rare circumstances, a girl may text back something completely unexpected, like, “Who is this?” Again, don’t freak out.
Just read the next section…

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Troubleshooting the First Text

“Who is this?” How to Respond

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here will come a day where you meet a girl, send
her a radar text, and get the dreaded “Who is this?”
response. While you’re more likely to get this from
girls you meet in bars and nightclubs, it can happen
with any girl, in any situation.

It may seem like a buzz-kill at the time, but it’s actually not
that bad. Situations like this are still salvageable—if you make
the right moves. In “special circumstances” like this, you can
violate the “Three Rules for the First Text.”
In this situation, it’s important you first make sure she knows
you’re not offended or angry. Remember, your attitude should
be that it’s no big deal. Most hot women don’t invest too much
of themselves into an interaction, so it always just stays “fun”
for them.

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And you should have the same attitude. If you can demonstrate that you don’t care that much, then she’ll relax and know
you’re “fun.” Keep in mind: she didn’t sign a social contract to
see you again. Until it seems “fun” for her, she’s simply not
going to meet you again.
So, your next text (which you can send anywhere between
10 minutes to an hour after she asks “who is this”) should be
something like:

Everything about that text—down to the typos—is intentional. Essentially, you want to give the impression
that you really don’t take it seriously—you actually find
it amusing (“lol”). Words like “player” and “mack it” are
helpful because they’re humorous and also help to reverse
the roles a bit, evoking some “gender humor.”
After sending the “no big deal” text, wait 10 or 15 minutes.
Sometimes girls will remember you, other times they won’t.
Often though, they just don’t respond. Again, don’t sweat
it—you can still get her out, but you have to work a little more
text magic.

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As such, send a “funny” text that’ll get her laughing. Though,
you want to be careful with humor over text. Girls sometimes
misinterpret “text humor” as creepy or offensive. So don’t say
anything too sexual, weird, or creepy. As you read on, you’ll
develop more of a sense of how to apply humor over text.
In this situation, you want to send a text like:

This (somewhat) edgy text is a “lol” and not a “wtf” because of one key word: “COUGAR.” Generally, young, hot
women have a natural disdain for “cougars.” By making a
joke about a “grabby cougar” with “arm fat” and a “fanny pack,” you can get her laughing while also developing
a bit of a connection with her.
Most likely, she was also “molested” by a few unsavory characters. She might even write back with stories of her own, describing creepy guys. Oh, and if the girl you’re texting IS a cougar, you might want to substitute “cougar” for “crazy college
chick.” (Pro tip: young girls and cougars are natural enemies!)

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At this point, she should at least be enjoying your texts. Once
you’ve “warmed up” the interaction, you can proceed as normal, which means either go silent or even pull the trigger for
a meet up.
Though, at this point, girls will often text something to the
effect of, “What do you look like?” Most guys think they’re
home free at this point since the girl now seems interested…
but it’s a TRAP. The next section explains what to do in that
situation.

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“What Do You Look Like?” How to Proceed

S

imilar to the “Who is this?” response, girls will sometimes ask what you look like. This not only happens
to guys who meet women in bar and nightclubs, but
also guys who meet women online or get set up by
friends.

Most guys assume they should answer this question logically, which is the absolute worst thing you can do. They either
give a description of
“Most guys assume they should
themselves or send a
answer this question logically,
picture. Be warned: if
which is the absolute worst
you answer with real
thing you can do.“
response—or worse,
actually send a picture
of yourself—you could
jeopardize the interaction (and it has nothing to do with your
looks).
Now, that’s not to say you can never give a real description
or send a picture. In fact, doing so AFTER you’ve sparked an
emotion is recommended. But, before you do, you want to
make sure to spark her emotions.

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Here’s an example of a text that does that:

Answering her question in a completely illogical (and
totally playful) way, you demonstrate that you’re FUN.
She’ll feel MUCH more comfortable meeting up with you
because she knows you’re not boring or awkward. Also,
she sees that you don’t take yourself too seriously (a very
important quality to demonstrate before the first date!)
Almost any girl will find this funny (and if she doesn’t, is this
really a girl you’d want to spend a date with anyway?). However, funny as she may think you are, don’t keep trying to be
“cute” or “funny” over text. Remember your purpose: to meet
up with her!
So if a girl writes back with a proclamation of your hilarity (e.g.,
“lololol omg! ur crazy!!”), you can congratulate yourself on
successfully transitioning from “random guy” to “funny, interesting guy.” And that’s a PERFECT time to propose a meet
up.

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If you hesitate and keep sending texts, you’re going to turn
into a “text goofball.” You will learn how to seamlessly propose a meet up in the next section, but here’s a quick preview
on a good way to do it in this “troubleshooting” scenario:

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