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How to Attract
Hot Girls

Face it guys, times have changed. Women are striving to be more assertive and
independent, and they are constantly changing their dating goals. Some women
remain traditional, with the hopes of finding one guy to have a romantic relationship
with. But many women are looking for a man to share a short, passionate affair. With
this in mind, we have to follow and understand their changing style of courtship:
signals, techniques, and even body language. We have to learn how to understand
women so we will know what they are communicating to us. If you want to
succeed in meeting and dating new and exciting women, you must be able to interact,
talk, and flirt with women on their level. This book is designed to help you learn this
process by providing the knowledge, techniques and skills required for dating
success. Whether you’re looking for a long-term romance or a one-night stand, this
book will guide you through and make meeting, dating and seducing women easier
and more fun!
One thing every man must understand is that women think differently. Women say
they want to be treated as equals. We‘ve all seen the feminists in action, fighting for
one thing or another trying to equate themselves to men. What they don’t understand
is that we could treat a woman equally - just like another guy - but it wouldn't satisfy
her. Women still want to be romanced and treated with respect. Women say one
thing, but expect another. They want to be paid equally, but they want men to pay for
dinner. As men we know how rough dating actually is, and it seems no one is willing
to make it easier for us. Until now!
This bible of knowledge will guide you through the dating process to ensure
success with women!
Did you know that even if you are both thinking the same thing, it is a proven fact
that communication between the two sexes lacks clarity? Men and women each have
a different process of courtship the other may not understand. Signals, and even
words used, may not be recognized or even understood. We need to figure out how
to read women so we know what they are thinking. Women are sending messages
to men all the time - we just aren’t getting them! This is why understanding a woman
is very important. Are you thinking: How will I ever learn how a woman thinks? I bet
you are, because so was I when I started this book. I was shocked to find that most
women were responsive to my research! Women want us to figure them out! They
were quick to tell me what men do wrong when relating to women, and how rare it is
to find a man who can understand how women think and communicate. This book
will open your eyes to opportunities you’ve never seen before, and you’ll soon be
equipped with the knowledge to take full advantage of these opportunities!

By following the suggestions in this book, you will become a man that women want
to date. You will be able to choose the women you spend your efforts on. You’ll
likely change your appearance and your behavior in an effort to look and act how
women want. Your changes will influence all aspects of your life - your work, your
social life, and especially your success with women! But before we go any further,
you have to make a commitment to wanting success with women. You have to be
willing to put in the time, effort, or money. You have to accept that you will change
through the process. Don’t make excuses for previous failures - just chalk it up to
experience and admit that you need practice! Pretty soon you will realize just how
easy meeting and picking up women can be.
While reading this book, you will learn more about yourself and what you want, then
use this information to target your desired type of woman. You will soon know what
to do, and what not to do, for success with women. You will learn how to flirt
successfully and create sexual chemistry with complete strangers. If you read this
book, cover to cover, you will be able to get the kind of short-term and long-term
relations with women you crave - whether it be purely sexual or emotionally
Now, turn the pages to learn the Who, What, Where and How of meeting,
approaching, talking to and seducing women in the twenty-first century.

Chapter 1: Initiate, Educate, Persevere
Let’s cut to the chase. For a man to succeed with women, he must be able to initiate
communication with a woman. The secret behind success in meeting, approaching,
talking to, and seducing women in the twenty-first century is the ability to
INITIATE! Get out there and make the effort. This may sound easy enough, but it
isn’t. Many of you already know how hard it can be to approach a woman. This
chapter explains why it is so important to take the initiative and learn from your
mistakes. With this book, you will learn the ways of women, what attracts them, and
what discourages them! Educating yourself is extremely important for success with
women. You will soon know how to read women, how to approach women and how
to talk to women in order to get them interested in being with you. You will also learn
more about yourself, and how your mind helps you attain goals.
You will practice meeting women, you will talk to them, and you will undoubtedly
face rejection, especially in the beginning. You must persevere through failure and
rejection and continue to experiment and initiate! You will realize that each failure
can only lead to greater success!

Chances are, women won’t arbitrarily flirt with you on the street. They won’t offer
their bodies to you. They won’t approach you and ask for your number. You have to
initiate meeting women. Once you meet a woman she will decide if she wants to
further the relationship. If you exchange numbers, you still must initiate. Call her.
Don’t wait for her to call you.
Initiating contact with the opposite sex is the key to success with women. You have
to get out there and actively pursue women. Meet and date as many women as you
can. Even if you decide not to date the women you meet, you will gain valuable
experience just by taking the initiative to approach them.
The ability to approach women comes with practice and also confidence. The better
you feel about yourself, the more women will respond to you. Your behavior can be a
direct suggestion of your level of confidence. You may need to build up your selfesteem in order to feel confident communicating with women. A man with high selfesteem will confidently walk right up to the most beautiful woman in the room and
start talking to her. However, a man who is not sure of himself will be unsuccessful in
achieving his goal of meeting and seducing the woman of his dreams. Which guy do
you want to be? If you don't feel good about yourself, or you know of areas you could
improve, take a trip to the nearest library or bookstore. Pick up a couple of books on

how to improve your self-image. You should recognize and try to improve your
weaknesses thereby lowering the possibility of rejection. The next chapter may help
you identify areas for improvement.

You need to educate yourself on both women and men, and how their minds work.
The more you know about women, the better your chances are for success. If you
know how women think, and what they want, then you have the power to respond and
behave in ways that will attract any woman. By creating an image that women want
you will attract the women you desire. This book will teach you everything you need
to know about women, including what they like to see and hear, and how they want to
be treated. Consider this book your new Bible. But knowing women is only half the
battle…you also need to know how men think.
Yeah, you heard me right -- you need to know how your own mind works. We all
have conscious thoughts, and make conscious decisions every day. But there is also
our subconscious to consider. When we set goals, our subconscious keeps track of
these goals, and influences the results in our conscious mind. When we encounter
fears or rejection, our subconscious deals with these obstacles and adjusts our
conscious mind accordingly. We are able to keep our goals in focus through changes
made in the subconscious mind. When you make mistakes, or face obstacles, your
subconscious mind chalks these things up to experience and expects that you will
continue to pursue your goals. And that is just what you need to do - learn from your
mistakes and move on.
For our purposes, you must always keep your goals in mind, and continue
towards them with relentless enthusiasm.

As you begin your journey into the world of dating you will still be learning approach
techniques and you should try to figure out what works best for you. This means
trying the techniques in this book, and adapting them to your personal style. You will
no doubt make changes in your appearance an your behavior to become more
successful with women. Some things you will learn the easy way, and others you will
learn the hard way. However, before you develop your best approach, you must be
prepared for rejection.
Everything takes practice. Don’t expect immediate success without failure.

Every man experiences rejection; it is part of the entire process. Hell, it is part of life!
Every failure leads to a greater success. Remember: the more practiced you are at
approaching and meeting women, the more confident you will become. This
ultimately leads to a higher success rate with women! Don’t get discouraged if you
get shut down -- consider it her loss. With each rejection, you have to be able to
regroup, move on, and apply the lessons learned.
You will learn your dating goals in Chapter 2. These goals will be the basis for your
dating strategies. Visualize your goals and make it your priority to meet these goals.

Chapter 2: Who You Are and Who You Want
You deserve the best woman out there for you. If you are like most guys I know, you
don’t have her yet. This means You Need a Plan. You may need a plan to find a
woman, to improve your current girlfriend, or to replace the woman you have. Any
woman you’re with should bring out the best in you, love you, accept you, share the
good times and stand by you through the bad times. Don’t settle for a second-rate
girlfriend - be with a woman who makes you feel like a God!
For you to find a woman with all the qualities you want, you first have to know about
yourself. I guarantee that if you know yourself, and what you want, women will be
eager to be with you. If you carry yourself with confidence and show women that you
are secure you will immediately attract women and capture their attention. This
chapter will lay the foundation for your future success with any woman you want.
Knowing who you are and what you want exudes personal power. You must
figure out your game plan to get the woman you want.
With this in mind pay close attention and don’t rush though this chapter. There will
be plenty of time in later chapters for learning everything you need to know about
approaching, talking to and seducing women. Be patient and learn first about
yourself. Once you know who you are, and what you want, you will be better
equipped to look at what kinds of women you would likely connect with. We will
then derive a description of her and a list of requirements she must fulfill before you
give her further consideration. You should not be wasting time with unworthy
women. This chapter is intended to get you focused on you, your personal goals,
and the woman of your dreams.

Collect Information
Have you ever seen a picture of a well-dressed guy in a magazine and thought you’d
like to look like him? Or of a woman you could see yourself being with? Well, all
these pictures, photos, advertisements, need to be collected and saved! Use these
images as incentives to realize your goals. Imagine yourself looking that good, or
with that perfect woman. As well, cut out articles or ads for singles events, or of
places you might like to go for a date. Collect any inspiring pictures as a way to
visualize your objectives and remain focused. When the time comes for a date with an
amazing woman, use the ads to create an exciting date filled with adventure and fun!
As you read through this chapter you will be asking yourself several questions about
you and the type of woman you want. You will benefit more from this chapter if
you write down the answers to all the upcoming questions. You’re going to be

referring to your self-analysis many times in the upcoming pages. In order to become
proficient at picking up and seducing women, you're going to change and grow. By
writing this stuff down you’ll have means to measure your progress, evaluate your
results and learn from your mistakes. Keep your written work together with your
collected pictures and/or advertisements in a folder or notebook. Your written record
of your personal and dating progress will mark where you started, how you’re doing
and where you’re going.

The Future is in Your Hands
Nothing about meeting an attractive woman and winning her favor is luck. You are in
charge of your life. Where you are and who your friends are is a direct result of your
life choices. The people you know are people you have attracted. You create these
relationships, consciously or not, and you have the control to build new and better
relationships right now. In fact, you can even decide what kinds of women you’ll be
meeting and dating before you actually meet them! Simply by first knowing who you
are and then by describing the kind of woman you want, you’re going to put
together a plan you can follow for tangible results. Don’t leave things to chance or
luck. You are responsible for the opportunities that come to you in your life.
Everything that happens to you is directly related to your choices in life.
If you rely on an uncontrollable imaginary force (such as luck, or chance) you will be
giving up the power to take your life into your own hands. You should become
personally accountable for all you experience - good and bad - so make sure you
engineer your choices to reflect your goals and objectives. Every decision you make
will have subtle or considerable effects on your life. Be sure you stay focused on
what you want and you will be happy.

Who Are You?
This is the time to start thinking about Who You Are. This section will help you to
figure out who you are, and what you have to offer a woman. First step: describe
yourself. What would you say? Well, a good start is a physical description. So that’s
what you will do now.
Get a pen and start writing.
Write a physical description of yourself. Include your age, height, weight, physical
build, and personality. Be sure to describe who you ARE, and not who you think you
are, or who you think you should be. Build a realistic description of who YOU are
and what you represent. Be honest with yourself, and go with your first impulses.

Don’t leave out your weaknesses, but also be positive and look for your strong points.
Don’t risk compromising your self-expression and confidence by only listing out
all your inadequacies and hang-ups. Such a list is self-defeating, whereas focusing on
your positive traits will make you feel better about who you are; and when you feel
better about yourself, you’ll feel more relaxed and confident around women, too.
Women sense this, and they’ll feel good being around you.
Take a look at these questions. Answer them honestly.
1. Are you reliable, honest, funny, educated, shy or outgoing, practical or
2. Do you have a large social group of friends and co-workers, or do you like to
spend time with just one or two important people?
3. What have your past relationships with women been like? Who ends them?
4. What is your current financial status?
5. What are your religious and political views?
6. What beliefs and values do you live by?
Now, this next group of questions is more important. You should spend a little more
time on your answers.
7. What activities do you enjoy?
8. What are you interested in?
9. What are your hobbies, if any?
10. Are you happy in your career, or would you like to learn new skills and
change jobs?
11. Who or what would you like to become?
12. If you could do anything to spend your time, what would you choose to do?
Write this down while the ideas are spontaneous and instinctual. Your first impulses
are more likely to be the truth. The more you think about your answers the more
likely it will be something you think you should write, not the truth. Don’t cheat
yourself – you’ll be using this analysis to increase your chances of getting the woman
of your dreams. Of course, you can always go back and add more ideas to your notes

Focus on What You Want
What you think about and focus on is, inevitably, what you are going to get out of
life. You have to think about new ideas, new goals and new women, or your mind and
behavior will exhibit the old ideas, patterns and people. If you don’t focus on and

visualize the woman of your dreams and imagine ways of meeting her all the time,
then you’ll probably end up meeting someone who resembles your last girlfriend, or
Avoid thinking about what you don’t want. If you think about not wanting a boring
lazy woman, and you focus on that, chances are you’ll be meeting more of them than
any other kind of woman.
You must FOCUS on what you WANT in order to GET what you WANT.
This applies to all aspects of your life - not just women. If you just focus on obstacles
you come across, instead of your ultimate goals, you’ll continue to have setbacks!
You have to focus and think about what you want all the time.

Define Your Desires
Now we find out what kind of woman you are really looking for. Start by writing
down a detailed and realistic physical description of her. Is she tall or short? Thin or
big-boned? Does she have short or long hair? Is she sexy, exotic, and alluring? Is she
the girl-next-door type? Does she have a casual appearance or a smart and
sophisticated look? Be sure to go for what you want. Write down what body type you
would prefer to take to bed. What will get you excited? What kind of woman turns
you on? What traits do you look for in a woman? Does she have slim long legs or
curvy hips and thighs? Is she in a certain age group? Does she work out regularly?
Athletic? Consider everything you can think of!
Now what personality type does your dream woman have? Is she outgoing or shy?
Does she love to go out and socialize, or is she more of a homebody type that loves to
cook and sew? Is she a lady or a tramp? Or a little of both? Write down anything
you WANT. What are her music and food preferences? Does she like sporting
events? Nightclubs? Traveling? Shopping? Does she like animals? Children? Does
she have any children? Does she have a career? Is she a student?
You are going to find definite traits and requirements that you’re looking for in a
woman. Don’t feel shy, or guilty, about these requirements. Never feel ashamed for
who you are and for what you want. There are many kinds of women out there, and
many of them will meet your demands. You need to decide your minimum
requirements. You also need to figure out which qualities or attributes you are willing
to compromise.
As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your ideal
woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what you want,

even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive direction. By knowing
what you want, you’ll be able to eliminate undesirable types of women. You want to
meet and get women you desire with little hassles or wasted efforts.
So that’s the end of this chapter. If you have answered the questions honestly you
should know more about who you are, and what you are looking for. I’ll bet that if
you look over your analysis you’ll find that the woman you want has similar physical
and personality traits as yourself. No doubt she shares similar interests and values,
and she probably likes guys like you. The information gathered here will be used later
on to advance your plan to pick up and seduce the woman (or women!) of your
If you have not yet gone through and answered the questions in this chapter - in
writing! - then STOP whatever you’re doing and answer them NOW! It is in your
own best interest to know who you are and what you want. Chapter 3 talks about
what women want, so you need to know what you have going for and what you might
have to change to become more attractive and approachable to women.

Chapter 3: What Woman Want In A Man
Now that you know what YOU want, it’s time for you to figure out what women
want. Once you know what she wants, you can begin fine-tuning your own behavior
to better your odds of getting Miss Right. Once you know what she wants, you then
have the power to appeal to any woman and make her want you.

First Things First
Within three minutes of meeting her, a woman will evaluate you, judge you and
stereotype you by your first impression. Despite this being an unreasonable way to
judge a person, women do this to almost every man she meets.
Make those first crucial minutes work FOR you, not against you. What is
communicated and observed during your first few minutes meeting a woman will
dictate your future relationship with that woman: you may become friends, lovers, or
possibly remain strangers.
We are all guilty of judging others based solely on their physical appearances, and
our personal prejudices and shortcomings. As shallow as that may be, it’s true. You
must use this judgment period to your advantage. This time is your most valuable
opportunity to portray your most attractive qualities. The best way to make your first
impression work for you is to adjust your physical appearance for greatest results.

Dress to Impress
How should a man dress to impress? First, always wear clothes that correspond to the
occasion. Second, always wear a well put-together outfit. If you have trouble deciding
on what to wear, it is always better to be overdressed than underdressed. You
wouldn’t want to show up in casual wear for dinner at an expensive restaurant with a
woman dressed to kill. A man should always be dressed to meet the occasion or
situation. No matter where you are going with a woman, you should always be
wearing clean, well-kept clothes. Believe it or not, women prefer clothes that are
well-kept and clean to clothes that are worn out or dirty! That may seem obvious to
you, but it is important to remember. By taking care of how you look, and by showing
some style, you show women that you really care about your presentation - and
women notice!

Look Your Best… Always!
You should always take the time to look your best whenever you go out. You never
know when you may have the opportunity to meet a stunning, beautiful woman - the
grocery store, Laundromat, or coffee shop.
Be sure to pay attention to the whole outfit. It’s worth the extra money to buy your
self some nice clothes to wear out. And don’t forget about the shoes or boots, a new
belt and a nice watch. Accessories do make a huge difference.
If you wear a well put-together outfit you will look sharp and portray more
The way you dress actually will change how you behave. Think about it… if you
wore a clown costume all day, you would feel silly and goofy. So if you want to have
more sex appeal, wear something that makes you feel sexy.
Women will respond to the image you project. Figure out what image you portray
now and then make the necessary changes in your wardrobe to attain your desired
image. Whatever image you want to give women be sure to act the part. You should
consider all behavior that attributes to your overall personal image - physical
gestures, eye contact. Use your clothes to emphasize your desired image
With all my experience, and from talking with other guys, a successful look to
maintain is to wear a pair of nice pressed or ironed pants and a sport shirt. Add to
these basics a trendy blazer, leather jacket or simple sport coat. Wear some goodquality stylish leather shoes or boots (match your leather jacket if you wear one!) and
be sure to always keep your shoes polished.
Be sure to show good taste. The whole outfit can be relaxed, trendy, conventional, or
professional, but any route you take you must look sharp. Try to stay away from
wearing a tie. You want to stay loose and approachable - not uptight or snobby
looking. A simple well put-together outfit is best. You’ll be more successful with
women than you’ve ever imagined if you wear a clean, classic, well put-together
outfit that exudes style and self-pride.

Refine Your Grooming Regime
Women notice every little thing about a man’s grooming. Every time they see a guy
they go through a mental checklist. Is his hair washed and styled? Are his fingernails
clean or manicured? Are his shoes polished? Clothes clean? Is he bathed? Does he

smell good? These things really matter to women! Clean and neat counts! Find a
grooming regime that works for you - and stay polished!
Always, I repeat ALWAYS, shower and shave and use deodorant before going out to
meet a woman. You might think the smell of your sweat is manly and sexy, but most
women would strongly disagree! Hold off on sharing your rugged body odor until
you’re hot and heavy in bed. If you are going out specifically to meet new women or
for a date, be sure to take some extra time getting ready. Show women that you care
about your appearance. Make sure your hair is done properly and your nails are filed
and cleaned. Brush your teeth and use cologne - not too much though, as women
generally have a better sense of smell than men. Take pride in how you look, and
you instantly improve your chances of success!

Get In Shape
You don’t have to be buff, ripped, or a body builder just to get the girl. But you
should make an effort to keep your body fit. Not only for your health, or for how you
look to women you first meet, but also for your sexual performance in bed. Even if
you just do cardio a few times a week, you’ll not only trim the waist line but you’ll
also be able to satisfy your woman long into the night - without having to take a break
halfway through! Exercise will not only make you look good, it will make you feel
Besides, most women aren’t attracted to a man who is overweight and lazy because
that is a direct indication of how he is as a lover. You want a woman to see you as a
man she could be with physically. Even if somebody carries himself well and with
good posture, it’s an indication of a good lover - in both men and women.

Be Unique
Another important quality that women love in a man is individuality. Women love a
man with a presence - someone unique. Take another look at your self-analysis and
decide which quality (or qualities) makes you different, special, or one of a kind.
Then come up with a way to draw attention to that quality. Maybe coin a phrase, or
use a prop? If you love photography, for example, carry a camera with you the next
time you go out. We all know most women love getting their picture taken - maybe a
beautiful woman eager to be your next model will approach you.
Often, wearing some kind of hat will make you stand out. Even wearing a baseball
cap will prevent you from withdrawing into the shadows. If you want to have a little
more fun wear a cowboy hat. Or try wearing a Santa’s hat at Christmas time. Women
love cuteness in a man.

Whatever method you decide to use, be creative. Be confident and have fun being
yourself. Women love a man who shows character.

Build Your Confidence
No matter where you are in your life, you should always know who you want to be.
To build your self-confidence you need to know who you are, know where you are
going, and be actively involved in making your goals reality. If you don’t like
something about yourself, or you want to try something new, then you should start
using your spare time to achieve these personal goals. Take a class, attend a seminar,
or enjoy other activities that will help you become who you want to be. It won’t take
long for you to start building the self-confidence to which so many women are

Intrigue Her With Mystery
Another trait that many women find attractive is a little mystery in a man. While most
women claim they want a man who is open, revealing and vulnerable, they also find
the strong silent type very appealing. Though this sounds contradictive, it’s relatively
easy to respond to. A man who is mysterious intrigues women. She considers this a
challenge, so give in to her playful game.
Don’t tell all right away - save something for later. You must hold back from telling a
woman everything about yourself right away. An easy way to do this is to only
answer questions. Don’t talk too much about an issue or experience - you may say
something she doesn’t want to hear. Let your personal story reveal itself over time
instead of all at once.

Challenge a woman to find out about you
Intrigue the woman you are with and she will be more determined to find out all
about you. Women don’t mind having to pry a little to get more information. But be
sure not to be overly secretive, though, or she may wonder what you are trying to

Show Her Respect
Women want to be admired and appreciated for their special qualities, even if they
deny wanting the attention. Putting the woman of your desire first will pay off. If you
show her that who she is and what she says is important to you, you will easily be on
her good side. You can do this by being attentive, through compliments - on her

looks, a new hairstyle, or a promotion at work - and by listening to her during your
conversations. Show her you are genuinely interested in her. Admire the woman you
are with, respect her and make her feel special. She’ll be very happy with you, and
she'll want to please you in return!

Give Her a Little Romance
Romance is attractive. It’s a little well-known fact that women love to be adored.
Being romantic is easier than you think, too! It often means just doing the little
things. Surprise her with a single flower or a note in her pocket, take her chicken soup
when she’s sick, or tell her a song reminds you of her.
Women always need reassurance. She needs to know she is needed and wanted.
Women want to hear you say nice things about them. They love flowers and gifts any
time. But you can’t give her romance too often. If you give too much she’ll come to
expect it, and there’s a chance she’ll take it for granted. Don’t over do it. Romance is
a great Ace to play if she is ever unhappy and you want to cheer her up. A little
candlelight, wine and roses will go a long way!

Make Her Laugh
A sense of humor is key when entertaining a woman. If you can make her laugh, you
can often win her heart, too. Many women complain about men being too serious. So
loosen up, relax, and make her laugh when she’s with you. Having a sense of humor
can make up for other possible shortcomings, too. Men who aren’t the best looking or
in the best physical shape can often succeed with women just by having a great sense
of humor. Being funny comes from having the confidence to be weird, silly, overly
outgoing, or exaggerated. Let your inhibitions go - use your sense of humor to
your advantage! Don’t be shy - laugh out-loud, and she’ll laugh with you.

Summing Up What Women Want
Women all basically want the same thing: A man who is looks good, who is sure of
himself and who shows genuine interest in being with her. Of course, each woman
has particular traits she looks for, but all women want a man who is unique, fun to be
with, and who will treat her with respect. After studying this chapter, and making the
effort to build on the traits discussed, you will become more attractive to women.
Once you master looking and acting the way women want, you will develop your
own personal image. Women with a similar image will be drawn to you, and you will
have greater success with these women.

Chapter 4: What Not To Do In The Company
Of Women
If you are like every other guy I know then at some point you have done at least one
of the things in this chapter - probably without knowing it was a turn-off for women.
Knowing about these turn-offs ahead of time makes it easier to avoid them. It is my
expert advice that you heed these warnings. I guarantee that if you ignore this
chapter, you will be destined to failure with women.

DON ‘T Gawk at Women
If you stare at a woman’s body, she will automatically be turned off and decide you
are someone she does not want to be with. This does not mean you can’t appreciate
the rest of her - her clothing, her stride, her gorgeous facial features. This means that
you must check out her body with a little more discretion. The last thing a woman
wants to feel is like she is a piece of meat that a man just wants to have sex with.
Women want to feel appreciated for who they are, and not just what they look like.
Making eye contact is extremely important when you first meet a woman. You’ll
never progress your relationship with a woman if you keep looking at her chest.
Despite that her clothing is sexy, and she has a beautiful, curvaceous body, you
mustn’t check out her ass or breasts so that you can get caught! Direct eye contact is
especially important if you are in a social environment and you are talking to this
woman for the first or second time. Keep your eyes on her - not on the women
walking by, or on her friends. If you are seriously interested in a woman, you should
give her your undivided attention.

DON’T Curse and Swear
You want women to see you as a gentleman. If you really want to give off a good first
impression, don’t swear in front of women. You should always assume that women
don’t approve of foul language or sexual undertone during conversation. Always lead
women to think you are a gentleman, even if you aren’t. Once you become more
comfortable with a woman then you can gauge levels of profanity that she will

DON’T Physically Grab Women
Women do not appreciate their body parts being pinched, grabbed, slapped or
fondled. If you do this, you will create hostile feelings between the two of you.
Women will not tolerate any physical contact that intimidates them, or is degrading.
As a man trying to score with a woman, you do not want her to be guarded or
uncomfortable around you. By avoiding aggressive physical gestures you ensure she
feels respected, relaxed and safe. You may want to touch her, and have some physical
contact with her. This is permissible - she will appreciate light, flirty gestures, such as
touching her arm, brushing against her, or sitting close to her. Flirty body language is
important in the stages of seduction, but be careful not to be
too aggressive.

DON’T Lie or Betray Women
If you are ever caught in a lie you might as well say goodbye to the woman that
catches you. Women consider trust a major factor in a healthy relationship. If she
catches you betraying her trust, she will assume that everything you have ever said is
a lie, and she will no longer believe anything you say. In order to cover your bases,
for example, if you are seeing more than one woman be sure you don’t commit to one
woman. Be honest with her, and she may even agree with your behavior! Women
want respect. When you respect a woman, she’ll give it in return.
If a woman starts to badger you about your behavior, don’t answer her questions if
you are going to have to lie to her. Simply tell her that she is out of line. You aren’t
obligated to tell a woman everything, especially if you are still in the dating stage of a
relationship. She must also respect you and show consideration for your privacy.

DON’T Talk About Other Women
We have all done this. You are out with a woman, and the conversation turns to your
prior relationships. You should be careful to avoid in depth conversations about other
women for a couple of reasons. First, by discussing your past relationships, and
perhaps analyzing them, you put this new woman in the category of therapist - a.k.a.
friend. She won’t feel any sexual chemistry for you if you are telling her what went
wrong with your ex-girlfriend. She may see your need to talk as an indication of
emotional baggage. You DO NOT want a woman to assume you have baggage.
Second, you don’t want to discuss other women you’re your date because this may
make her feel uncomfortable. If you are talking about ex-girlfriends then it means you
are still thinking about them. A woman wants to feel that you are thinking about her,
especially while on a date. She wants to know that you like her, and you want to

spend time learning about her. So ask her questions about Her! Get to know her.
Don’t ask about her past, and she will be less likely to ask about yours.
Third, you do not want to be discussing other women with your new date if you are
seeing more than one woman. This can be a touchy subject for some women, so it is
best left alone. If it comes up in conversation, simply brush it off as casual dating. Try
to avoid that discussion in the early dating stages with a new woman. You want to
increase your chances of getting this woman into bed, not lose out because of your
big mouth.

DON’T Forget to Shave
This is a big issue for women. The stubble might not bother you, but it definitely
bothers women! If you intend to kiss a woman, on the lips or otherwise, you must be
clean-shaven. Either that, or have your facial hair grown out past the prickly stage. It
can irritate a woman’s skin, and she won’t look forward to kissing you in the near
future. This, of course, is not what you want. Be sure to keep your facial hair
groomed and stubble-free.

Chapter 5: Where Women Can Be Found
One thing every man should understand is that obtainable women surround him all
the time. We just don’t realize it yet. To be successful with women you need to
recognize these endless opportunities to meet new women. Start taking every
opportunity to meet new women. Granted, many of these women may not be your
type or have anything in common with you. Just because you meet her does not mean
you will go out with her. But you owe it to yourself to get out there and interact with
There are many different places and ways to meet women. This chapter discusses
ways you’ll make yourself more available to different types of women, and how you
can "target" the type of woman you desire. Remember, this chapter covers many
different approaches to meeting and dating women. Not all approaches may appeal to
you, but it never hurts to try everything once.

Organized Dating Groups
Organized dating services can be great, provided they aren’t too expensive. Using
I'm LIVE! or other online dating service is great too, but you shouldn’t waste your
time and money on telephone dating hotlines, or on newspaper classified personals,
because you can’t see what you’re getting involved with. It’s better to have a photo of
her, camera-to-camera (in online dating) or to interact casually with a woman before
actually asking her out. We all know that looks are important, especially when
looking for a woman you are attracted to!
There are many social groups geared towards singles. They are usually formed
around a common interest such as hiking, music, photography, or some other favored
pastime. A group like this can be good because you’ll already have a common interest
to talk about when you meet a woman. To find out about clubs in your area, try your
local community center or newspaper.
There are also many online dating communities to join. You can chat, exchange
photos, and get to know women without actually meeting them. The Internet is a
great place to practice hitting on women where there are no egos involved. Who cares
if you offend her? She simply won’t write you anymore. If you have an Internet
connection, this is a great low-risk place to practice. It is also a great way to narrow
your search by process of elimination; however, you still can’t be sure of what you’re

No matter which type of singles groups you choose to join, you may still not find
your target woman. A more focused approach will be discussed at the end of this
chapter. Essentially, you only go after your desired type of woman. While targeting
on a specific type of woman can be good, as it won’t waste a lot of time, you
never know where you’ll meet the woman of your dreams. She could bump into
you when you least expect it. That is why the Shotgun Theory cannot be overlooked
or underestimated.

Shotgun Theory
The Shotgun Theory emphasizes hitting as many targets as possible. This theory is
perfect for hitting on women, and it can also effect your success when job hunting.
You want the biggest spread! So, what does this mean to your dating approach? Talk
to every woman you find attractive! Wherever you are, wherever you go, you are
going to see women you find attractive. Once you see a woman you are interested in
all you have to do is approach her, talk to her, or get her phone number. How to
approach her is coming up later, but for now recognize that anywhere and anytime is
the right place and the right time to meet women.
With this approach, you’ll have endless numbers and endless dates! To increase your
odds with this approach, you should go to where there are greater numbers of
women. Such places include aerobics or dance classes, acting and theater groups,
singles events, and singles bars. Also, you should always dress to impress every time
you leave your house. It’s an unwritten truth that you’ll meet the woman of your
dreams when you are least expecting it. You want the confidence that looking great
will give you.
With this enthusiastic approach, you’ll always have at least one woman on the go,
and you’ll always be meeting new women. What if she isn’t interested? Don’t take it
personally. Every man gets rejected some time. The foundation of the Shotgun
Theory is to never give up.
You may give up on one woman, but not on your quest to get the woman you

Bars and Night Clubs
Bars and clubs are a great place to meet women and to practice your Shotgun
approach. There are always single women making themselves available by going to
singles bars and nightclubs.

If you want to be successful picking up women in bars, you should try going to those
that aren’t too noisy to talk. Some bars have live bands that can play extremely loud.
This creates the need to yell back and forth, thus taking away from the seductive
behavior. You need to be able to carry a conversation with a woman if you expect to
pick her up or get her phone number.
Another factor that contributes to a comfortable atmosphere is lighting. You don’t
want a bar to be too dim. Again, you want to see what you’re getting. Try to find a
club that has a little brighter room. Also, try to find a club that has a cozy area with
couches or tables where you could suggest having a drink with a woman. If the
lighting is adequate, you will see her well enough to decide if she is worth your
while, and if the music isn’t too loud, you will be able to have a conversation with
her. Already, without any commitment, you know if you’ll like her or not.

Coffee Shops
Believe it or not, coffee shops are prime locations to hook up with a woman. The
caffeine has a big part in this, as it triggers the pleasure center of the brain by
releasing a substance in the body called phenyl ethylamine. The coffee creates a body
rush - her breathing will quicken, as will her heart rate - and she’ll be more receptive
to your advances than if you had met her elsewhere. Women in coffee shops tend to
be more open to meeting.
Coffee shops are also a great place to meet women because it often means you live in
the same neighborhood, therefore there is a greater chance of bumping into her more
than once. Coffee shops are a casual environment, and it is easy to approach a
woman. You simply ask her if you can sit on the stool beside her at the coffee bar, or
offer to share a table with her. Often, women are in coffee shops to take a break from
her hurried day and good conversation can be a welcome advance.

Grocery Stores & Laundromats
Ah, the necessities of life. Every woman must buy food. This reason alone is bound
to attract your attention - If every woman is, at some time, walking the isles of a
grocery store then you have a chance to meet her. The next time you are shopping for
food and you see an attractive woman, simply push your cart up beside hers and smile
at her. Then say something charming to break the ice and start a conversation.
Laundry is another required chore that we all must carry out. Laundromats can be
very casual environments to meet women. Most people spend about an hour and a
half doing their laundry, which gives plenty of time to spark up conversation. It can
be much easier to approach a woman when she is relaxed and just being herself. If

you decide to approach a woman in the Laundromat, be sure not to approach her
while she is folding her personal clothing, though. Most women will feel
uncomfortable if you do this. If you do meet a great woman in the Laundromat and
you don’t get her number, at least be sure to ask her about her regular laundry days,
then perhaps plan to meet again "same place, same time." As with coffee shops,
meeting at a Laundromat indicates that you live nearby to her.

Break Your Routine!
You heard me! Break your routine. Take a different route to work, walk to the corner
store instead of drive, have coffee at a new café, take walks at lunchtime. Changing
your routine will expose you to new people and new places and will increase your
chances to meet and date new women.
A great way to expose your self to new people is to try new things, or go to new
places. Create an adventure for your self, and get involved in something you haven’t
tried, or haven’t done in years. Take at least one day this week and try something
new! I have brainstormed a list of places to go and activities you could try - not only
to meet women, but to enhance your life as well.

Tennis Courts Art Shows The Beach
Health Clubs Concerts The Park
Sporting Events Museums Cafeteria
Department Stores The Zoo Jogging
Amusement Parks Boat Shows Restaurants
Health Fairs Car Shows On the Street
Church Career Fairs Video Store
Local Markets Book Signings In an Elevator
Sports Bars Club meetings Parades
Garage Sales Political Events Bus Stops
Book Store Magazine Shop Airport
Remember: Anytime! Anywhere!

It doesn’t matter where you are, or what you are doing, you should always be
ready to go into action. The more practiced you are at approaching and meeting
women, the more confident you become with your techniques. This ultimately leads
to a higher success rate with women! Remember, that you don’t have to call every
number you get – it’s the process of actually getting her number that is important.
Just keep practicing! Don’t get discouraged if you get shut down - consider it her
loss. Once you become an expert, you will have no trouble getting the woman of your

How to Target Your Dream Woman
Following is your best chance of meeting the woman of your desires. You need to
figure out where your ideal woman will spend her time, where she socializes, where
she might shop, and in what clubs or organizations she might be a member. Now, you
put your self in these places. Spend time in stores she might shop in; join the clubs
she might join.
Find your ideal woman in a focused and well thought-out manner.
Make this search a priority in your schedule. Pencil in time throughout your week
devoted to finding, meeting and picking up women of your desired type. This
approach may at first result in failure, but keep reminding yourself that each failure
leads to a greater success. You must persevere though rejections and practice your
techniques. Figure out why you were rejected. What went wrong? What went right?
In any case, chalk it up to experience and move on. Above all, remain focused on
your goal. Keep visualizing your desired woman, and you will be more likely to meet
her. Don’t live with paranoia that you missed or screwed up an opportunity. Your
ideal woman is destined to be with you.

Time to Move On…
Now that you know the basics, it’s time to move on. This chapter is the last chapter
for building your foundation for meeting, picking up and seducing women. It
concludes the Who, What and Where portion of this book. What you have learned so
far is imperative to your success with women, and the remainder of this book is all
about using effective strategies. The next chapter beings answering the How
questions to attracting, talking to, and dating the women you meet.

Chapter 6: How To Seduce Women
Once you find a woman you’d like to approach, you must know how to make initial
contact with her. Once you achieve recognition, you have to be able to read her
signals - do you continue your approach? Or do you take the red flag and get out of
the game? This chapter is devoted to helping you learn the best strategy for
approaching a woman. I will define the entire process, from initial contact and
flirting, through conversation, touching, and to the bedroom. This chapter will lay the
foundation for the more detailed discussions in the following chapters about specific
flirting techniques (Chapter 7), how to initiate a conversation with a woman (Chapter
9), and what to say to a woman (Chapters 8, 9 & 10).
The seduction process can be broken down into three main stages. Each of these
progressions - Recognition and Flirting, Conversation, and Chemistry - will be
described for you in this chapter. As you read about each step, keep in mind that you
must lead the woman through the seduction process. She ultimately gives the
approval, but you maintain control. Understanding these methods will allow you to
easily incorporate your existing knowledge and skills into the more advanced topics
in later chapters.

Stage 1: Recognition and Flirting
Objective: Find Her, Acknowledge Her, Interpret Her Response
This stage is includes checking out your surroundings, observing all the potential
target women, and deciding which woman you would like to pick up. Once you
decide whom you will target, you must let her know that you are interested. You
can do this by making eye contact with her, smiling at her, or giving her a little nod.
Then, you must get a response from her. She will likely smile, raise her eyebrows or
return the eye contact. Once you receive acknowledgement from her, you will
subconsciously start making subtle body movements. These gestures include running
your fingers through our hair, stretching, repositioning your self in your chair,
touching your face, or adjusting your clothing. You may not even notice your
movements – don’t worry about it! This behavior is usually a sign of anxiety and your
apprehension of actually meeting her and talking to her. Some women may notice
your body language, and those who do will find it appealing. It gives a woman
indication that you intend to approach her.
After the initial response, you must improve your chances of getting further
recognition from her. Chapter 7 goes into more detail about using and reading body
language. What you read here are just the basics. Make sure you are in her line of

vision. Adjust your position in the room so that you are facing her. Then subtly scan
the room and, without looking AT her, try to catch her eye for another moment of eye
contact. Now it is up to her to either discourage you or encourage you. She will either
show interest, or she will turn away from you. If she turns away, cut your losses
and move on to the next woman you find attractive. Don’t waste your time on a
woman who isn’t interested. If she smiles at you, or moves towards you, this means
she is interested. If she makes eye contact with you, be sure to smile! It conveys the
message that you are interested, and you would like to meet her. Watch her body
language for subtle gestures of encouragement - anything from fidgeting with her
glass, looking down, or touching her face or hair. Any of this behavior indicates that
she wants to meet you. She is inviting you with her body language. Keep in mind
that women know quite well how to reject men. If she smiles at you or makes an
effort to straighten her appearance then she is definitely sending you a signal of
approval. Remember: You lead, so take the initiative and go over and say something
to her.

Stage 2: Conversation
Objective: Approach Her, Talk to Her, Make Arrangements to
See Her Again
From this point onwards, your success lies in your ability to verbally communicate
with your targeted woman. She has already given you approval to approach her, now
you have a chance to win her approval to see her again. The best way to be successful
in the stage is to just go ahead and do it! The more you think about what you will say,
or how she might react, the more you worry about going over to her and talking to
her. Keep in mind you have absolutely nothing to lose! You already know the
importance of action. Now is the perfect time to execute initiative. Walk over to
your targeted woman. If a woman sees you walking confidently towards her she will
recognize that you are a self-assured man. At this point, you need to say something to
her. All you need to do is break the ice, then she will reply and a conversation is
ignited. What to say to women and how to approach them is discussed at length in
Chapters 8 and 9. Also in Chapter 8 you will find out what vital information you must
get from your conversation with a woman.
During this stage, there should be more eye contact, and continuing body language.
You may notice that your gestures reflect hers, or vice versa. This is a sign that you
are becoming comfortable with the conversation and a connection is being made.
With this positive behavior, you should either ask for her number so that you can call
her, or set up a time and place to meet again. (Chapter 10 discusses how to date
women, and what to say to them before and during your dates.)

It will take practice to become comfortable approaching women, but with time and
experience, you will soon find out what techniques work best for you.

Stage 3: Chemistry
Objective: Physical Contact
This stage is based on creating a connection with a woman. She has to trust you, and
be able to communicate with you. This connection can be made in seconds, or it
might take a few dates, or it may never happen. In Chapter 11 you will learn effective
techniques for building this connection.
Once you create sexual chemistry with a women you desire, then you will have no
problem finding the opportunity to get closer to her. There will be the urge for
physical contact with the woman. Likely examples are brushing against each other,
touching legs under the table, or touching shoulders if you are sitting beside one
another. While walking, you want to touch her waist or her back, or hold her hand.
This behavior often develops after a couple of dates, if not sooner, and almost always
leads to kissing and cuddling.
Once you get a woman into this stage, it’s just a matter of timing and charm
before you get her into your bed.
These three stages of seduction are the basis for the remaining chapters in this book.
The following chapters offer more detailed information, and many useful suggestions
for making the seduction process easier.

Chapter 7: How To Use Power And Suggestion
Of Body Language
The man with the greatest chance for success with a woman is a man who can attract
her, approach her, and seduce her by using both verbal and non-verbal language. This
chapter is all about body language – yours and hers. You need to know how your
body language influences her reactions and opinions toward you. You need to know
how to get the results you want by telling her what you want before you approach her.
You’ll learn what impression you can give her and how you can convey your
intentions to her by using simple gestures.
You’ll also learn how to pick out the women that will be the most responsive to your
efforts. You want to minimize your chances of rejection. In this chapter you will find
out how to spot the women that want to be picked up and those tat want to be left
alone. You will learn how to use body language to communicate with women. You
will soon learn how to read a woman’s movements and reactions to determine what
she’s thinking and how she feels.
Body language is the most powerful and effective communication tool when
meeting women. You must become fully aware of body language and use it to your
advantage. Once you read through this chapter your chance for success will increase
as you begin to see the clues women give you through their body language. Using this
valuable information, your time and effort will no longer be wasted on women who
cannot or will not give you what you desire.

Use Your Body Language Effectively
This is called Flirting. Flirting is extremely important when communicating with
women that you intend to pick up. Everyone can flirt, but not all can flirt
successfully. You will soon be able to flirt with women and achieve great results!
This chapter is full of suggestions for Effective flirting.
To become an expert at flirting you need practice, practice and more practice.
There are many women out there eager to flirt with men. You may not see Yourself
with all of them, but you should still use them to practice your techniques! Practice
making women smile; practice talking to women; practice being funny and charming;
practice new lines; practice asking for her phone number. You should especially
practice reading women – approach them to compare their reactions to what you
expected. Every time you are right about a woman’s thoughts you will become more

of an expert at reading women. You will become more confident and, when it comes
time to flirt with a woman you really want to date or sleep with, you’ll be ready.

Personal Space
You have to set the stage for exchanging body language with a woman. The best way
to do this is it to position yourself within reasonable proximity to her. Once you see a
woman you are interested in you should turn to face her. Make sure that you are in
her line of vision, so that you can easily exchange glances. You want her to see you.
As soon as she sees you, start flirting with her.
Women, too, use their personal space to flirt with you. If a woman is particularly
close to you – less than an arm’s length away – then she is probably interested in you.
Always assume she is interested, at which point begin flirting with her. A woman will
likely position herself near you if she is interested.
When a woman sees a man she wants to meet, she will find a way to be
physically closer to him.
Have you ever noticed a woman who keeps appearing in your general vicinity? No
coincidence. Women have their own ways of getting closer to men. She may slowly
move closer to you; she may approach the bar at the same time hoping to talk to you;
she may "accidentally" bump into you; she may touch your arm or your waist to make
her way past you in a busy nightclub; she may even brush her breasts up against you.
This behavior is sending the message that she wants to meet you.
Women almost always will tour the room and pass by any man she is interested in
more than once. She will look at you and look away – then look again to see if you
are still looking. This is a telltale sign that she is interested. Men often don’t notice
such subtle gestures. Keep reading to learn more about her body language.
Every time you walk into a room, you should notice women, and where they are.
Keep your eyes open to see who is checking you out, and watch which women
move closer to you. These are the women that are interested in you, and they will be
more likely to accept your advances.

Make Eye Contact
If you see a woman you are interested in, the first thing you do is become visible to
her, then you want to make eye contact. Look into her eyes. Eye contact, especially
the first glance, can say a lot about your feelings for a woman. Women can sense
your intentions when she looks into your eyes. Women are very good at reading a

person’s eyes, so it is important to be genuine. Allow her to see the real you; you’ll be
more attractive if you are being yourself. Be sure to look right into her eyes. Don’t
look her up and down like a piece of meat you just want to have sex with; look at her.
If you create chemistry (as discussed later in Chapter 11) she will feel the connection
right away.
Always try to make eye contact with any woman you are interested in.
Show her that you are serious about wanting to meet her and talk to her. If you catch
her eyes across the room, hold your gaze until she looks away. You should never be
the one to look away, and never look down. Looking down is a sign of submission –
that is what you want her to do! If you look away you send messages of fear, or lack
of interest. You want her to know you are strong, confident and assertive. Hold eye
contact with her for an extended gaze. If she refuses to look away, give her a little
wink and a smile. When you are holding eye contact with a woman, and you feel the
tension building, don’t break down and look away. Force yourself to keep looking
deep into her eyes. By maintaining your gaze you are creating sexual chemistry!
Once the woman looks away then you should also look away. Frequently scan her
line of vision to see if she is looking back at you, and see if she will make direct eye
contact with you again. If a woman is interested in you, she will let you know.
Extended eye contact is a good indication that she wants to meet you.
If she continues to look right at you, then you know she is interested. She is inviting
you over with her eyes. A woman with such confidence is one to be extra secure
around. She knows what she wants, and tonight she wants you.
When you decide to approach a woman you want her to see you as a self-assured man
whom she could easily be with. Walk right up to her without looking away. To
engage a conversation, you should politely introduce yourself and flatter her with a
sincere compliment. She will surely smile in response, or say thank you, and then you
ask her name and make conversation. You will learn just what to say in Chapter 8
How to Talk With Women. Once you know her name, be sure to use it often so as not
to forget it.

A great smile will tell a woman a lot about you: you are sociable, you are friendly,
and you are happy. Smiling is easy and effective with women. It will put a woman at
ease, and she won’t feel threatened by you. When you smile at a woman you are
sending her the message that you have noticed her and she should know that you are
interested in her. If a woman smiles at you, she is sending that same message.

Always return a woman’s smile – it tells her you are friendly, easy-going and
When you make eye contact with a woman, you must follow it up with a smile. If you
don’t, she may see you as angry, stupid, or a jerk! You might be trying to "keep your
cool" by maintaining a straight face, but women don’t want that – a woman wants a
friendly, approachable guy to smile at her and to give her a sign of approval.

Smile at a woman to tell her you are interested
Smiling at her and making eye contact with her will tell a woman you are attracted to
her. If a woman returns both gestures – eye contact and smiling – you know you
made an impression. You will have a pretty good chance for success as she has
already given you the approval to approach her.
It is important to smile to women, and it is just as important to smile while interacting
with friends and strangers. If a woman is watching you, and sees your positive
manner, she’ll see you as a guy who knows how to have a great time. A woman will
notice you laughing and enjoying yourself.
She will see you as a guy who would be fun to go out and spend time with. If you
don’t have a confident smile, practice every day in front of the mirror, or just smile at
all the people you make contact with through out the day. You will quickly feel great
about your smile, and the reactions you get from being friendly.

Reading Her Body Language
When reading a woman’s body language, be sure to consider all body movements,
facial expressions and even her verbal communication to other people. Women are
not very good at hiding their feelings. Their feelings are expressed obviously,
provided you can read what her body language is saying. Women always convey
what they are feeling through a series of gestures. You need to be able to recognize
these gestures and interpret them to find out her thoughts, feelings, or motives. There
are two key forms of body positioning – open and closed. Open describes a woman
who is open to advancement. She will respond positively if you approach her. Closed,
on the other hand, indicates that the woman is on the defensive.
She is withdrawing from the situation; she may be unhappy; she may be tired and
wants to go home. Women with closed body language should probably be avoided,
unless you want a challenge.

Body Position – Standing
When a woman is standing, and she is open to advancement, she will often stand with
her legs slightly apart. Her arms could be by her side, on her hips, or one hand will be
holding a drink. She will be relaxed and her movements will flow smoothly. These
are all good indications of openness to advancement. A woman who is
approachable will usually keep her hands showing – indicating she has nothing
to hide. A receptive woman will not have her hands in her pockets, or her arms
crossed. If a woman is standing with her arms crossed she is demonstrating a closed
body position. She is feeling defensive and her arms pose as a physical barrier to
anyone approaching.

Body Position – Sitting
When a woman is sitting with just her legs crossed, and her arms resting on her lap,
or on the arm rests, she is expressing an open body position. She may have crossed
her legs to be sexy – to show off more of her thigh and to express invitation. If she is
holding her knee and leaning forward, she is showing interest. If she turns her body
towards the person beside her, she is definitely showing interest in that person.
When a woman is seated with her legs crossed AND her arms crossed – walk
away. She is not in a receptive body position. Wait until she relaxes. Otherwise, she
will probably be a very difficult woman to open up. Another defensive position is
when she tightly holds her hands on her lap, and her ankles are crossed.

Obvious Flirting Behavior
Even if you aren’t very good at reading body positions, you can’t go wrong if you
notice some or all of the following behavior:

She may tilt her head to one side, or looks at you then looks down, which
indicates submission;
She may run her fingers through her hair;
She may straighten her clothing or adjust in her seat;
She may touch her face, neck, or rub her hand on her own leg.

All these gestures indicate a desire to look attractive. Women are always showing
men signs of interest, but so many men just don’t know how to read them! You
need to observe women and, using this book as a guide, learn to interpret their body
positions and gestures. When a woman shows signs of interest you need to be
confident with your approach, and that she will accept your advances, and move
toward her.

If you are more interested in learning how to interpret a woman’s body language
there are numerous books written on just that. It is an extensive subject – one worth
reading up on! The more you know about how women convey their feelings, the
better you can communicate with them.

Physical Contact
If you are like every man I know, you want to become physical with the woman you
are advancing upon. You must not move too quickly, though. The woman will show
signs of interest, you will start a conversation, and then you can inadvertently touch
her. A soft, subtle touch can make a woman feel at ease with you. You will reassure
her that you are a nice, gentle person.
The best way to initiate physical contact with a woman is to "accidentally" touch her.
Any indirect contact will do – if you are standing, stand close so your arms touch, or
if you are sitting, sit close enough so that your legs touch. If she allows or returns the
contact, then you are okay to continue. Once you establish your first physical contact
you should continue to touch her. It lets her know that you are definitely interested,
and you don’t want her to get away.
Often, men lose out with women because they DON’T touch her enough. Men often
hesitate touching too much for fear of scaring her away, but women think that he is
not totally interested in her. This is a simple miscommunication that you can easily
avoid. Touch her. If she pulls away then you should give her some more time to get
comfortable with you. You don’t want to come on too strong, or you might offend
Take the initiative to be close, but let the woman dictate how much, how fast.
If you feel that the chemistry between you is building quickly and you feel the desire
to kiss her, look deep into her eyes. Stand close enough so that you can touch her
cheek, and pull yourself against her. Wait to see her reaction. If she pulls away then
she is not ready to be kissed. If she returns the closeness and doesn’t pull or turn
away, kiss her softly. Make sure you don’t give her a wet, sloppy kiss. Women hate
that! If a woman wants to be kissed, she will position herself in front of you.
Knowing just when to initiate physical contact, or when to kiss her, takes practice.
You can practice touching people inadvertently throughout the day, but the best
practice will be with women.

Ensure Success Tonight
Now that you know about women’s behavior and body language, you need to know
how to find the woman who is looking for the same thing you are – to meet someone
tonight. This woman will be looking hot and desirable.
Typically, she will wear clothes that show off her female form. She may draw
attention to her breasts or legs. She may wear a tight skirt or top to show off her
feminine curves. This woman wants to look her best so that she will attract male
attention. She knows that she looks hot, and she has probably only one thing on her
mind – to find a sexual partner. A woman looking to meet a man will express open
body language, and she will be watching every man in the room. She is looking to
choose the lucky guy who gets to take her home tonight. Despite her outspoken body
language, you should always follow the points in this chapter – make eye contact and
flirt with her before approaching her. Instead of looking deep into her eyes, you could
play with her a little and undress her with your eyes. A woman with the goal of a onenight stand will appreciate this gesture, and the chemistry will spark! This woman is
sending out obvious signals of interest. Now that you know even the slightest body
suggestions you can pick up on her obvious desires. You can be the lucky guy who
attracts her attention using your own body language and takes her home!

Chapter 8: How To Talk With Women
Now that you have learned how to use non-verbal language to attract, approach, and
seduce women it is time to figure out how to talk with women. When talking with a
woman, you want her to feel a connection with you. A woman wants a man to
understand what she is saying, and men want a woman to feel at ease with him. These
two things go hand in hand. If a woman feels that you understand her, she will feel
more comfortable and she will be more likely to be receptive to your advances and go
out with you.
This chapter is all about the spoken language. Once you’ve mastered the material in
this chapter, your actions or words will never be misinterpreted again. You’ll learn
the basics to having a successful conversation with any woman. You will learn what
to say and what not to say, and a few general principles to keep in mind when talking
to a woman.

Your Goal
There is one main reason you are talking to this woman - the chance you will get
sexual with her. Maybe you want a relationship, maybe a one-night stand, but
ultimately you want sex. You aren’t talking to her because you really want to learn
more about her or carry on a conversation.
You are using conversation as a way to get closer to your goal of establishing an
intimate relationship with her.
Women gauge their relationships on how well they relate to that person. If you want
to relate with a woman you have to create emotional involvement. Of course, for you,
conversation is a way to get more information about her. But for women it is more
about how she interacts with you, and how you make her feel. It is important get
along well with her if you want to see her again. This means a lot to a woman. Talk
about what you like and dislike, ask her questions, and answer her questions. Offer
your personal opinions as well. This will make her feel closer to you and she will
move to a more personal conversation.
It is useful to try to attach a feeling to the facts she reveals to you. For example, ask
her how she feels about her work, or, if you see her at the gym, tell her how much
you admire that she takes care of her body. Tie in your feelings with the situation
and/or any facts she gives you. Remember, the more comfortable you make her feel
by understanding her, and showing emotion, the better chance you have of seeing her

again. You need to use this conversation to build the foundation for a possible
relationship with this woman.
The main goal of this conversation is to become personally involved with this woman
and to get certain information from her. You need to get three vital pieces of
information if you want to see her again.

Get Her Vitals
Before we discuss how to talk to women, let us talk about what the conversation
should get us. When you first meet a woman, there are three pieces of personal
information you must get from her. The whole basis of your relationship depends on
getting this information. Success or failure at this task will determine whether or not
you will see her again. You must make it your priority to get this vital
information when talking to a woman that you have just met and that you’re
interested in. Focus on these three very important pieces of information.

Vital Fact #1: Her Name
When you introduce yourself to her, ask for her name right away. Be sure to use her
name in the next couple of sentences. Women appreciate a guy who actually pays
attention, and using her name will show her that you are interested in her.
Repeating her name back to her is also a good way for you to remember it, and to
make sure you heard her correctly. The more you pay attention to a woman, the more
she will like you.

Vital Fact #2: A Common Thread
You need to ask her a couple of questions to get more information about her. Find a
way for the two of you to be connected. This might be a common interest, a
mutual friend, or the same favorite drink. You want to use this common factor to
relate to her, and you want to give her a reason to trust you.

Vital Fact #3: Her Number
Before the conversation comes to an end, you must make sure you have a way to get
in touch with her. This usually means her phone number. Or, ask for her email
address. In this day and age there aren’t too many people that don’t have email either
at home or at work. You will learn more about getting her number in Chapter 10 How
to Get and Execute a Date. Know these three pieces of information, and make it your
priority to get them from every woman you are interested in.

The Basics
Now that you know about getting a woman’s vitals, you need to know how to talk to
her. This can be harder than it sounds. When you try to compare the way men talk to
each other and the way women talk to each other it’s like comparing apples and
Men talk facts, women talk feelings.
If you want to talk the same language as women then you need to express emotion
when you talk. Inherently, men aren’t very good at this, and that is why the first thing
you should do in a conversation is listen to her. You need to listen to her and relate to
her conversation. Ask questions about what she is telling you, and involve yourself in
her future. You need to learn how to share personal experiences with a woman to
create an intimate connection.

The first thing you want to do while having a conversation with a woman is to listen.
Too often, men ramble on about themselves leaving their date bored and feeling
ignored. You want your date to open up, to share personal feelings and opinions, and
to establish a trustful relationship with you. When a man listens to a woman, and
really pays attention to what she is saying, she feels that he is genuinely interested in
her for her, not just for her body.
Women want a man to show genuine interest in her life, her opinions, and her
contributions to the conversation.
Women don’t want a self-absorbed guy who only talks about himself, and who is just
trying to get into her pants. Of course, this can be your ultimate goal; you just need to
play it cool with a woman in the beginning, until she feels an emotional connection
with you. Reassure her that you are listening by nodding at her and by making verbal
comments such as "uh-huh," "yeah," and "oh really." Once a woman feels that you
understand her, and you want to know all about her, she will relax and become more
inclined to go to bed with you.

Show Interest and Ask Questions
When you are listening to a woman speak, you need to reassure her that you
understand what she is saying. Use positive verbal comments, as I have outlined
above, and be attentive. Involve yourself in the conversation and demonstrate your
interest. Ask questions about what she is telling you. You want to ask her What? and

How? questions to get more information from her. You mustn’t ask her Why?
questions, though, as it will put her on the defensive and she may feel threatened.
You don’t want to lose all the ground you’ve made so far by asking her an offensive
question. Get background information about her: Did she grow up in this city? Where
did she go to school? What brought her to this city, if she has moved here? Ask her
about her work, what she likes about her work. If she is telling you about a current
situation or a problem she is having, ask her questions about how she feels, how she
might deal with her situation, or what she has done so far to solve the problem. Show
some interest and be involved in the conversation and you will surely impress her.

What NOT to Say
When you first meet a woman, you want to give her your best impression. When you
read Chapter 3 What Women Want you learned the importance of a good first
impression. This is when you want to portray your most attractive qualities. You
don’t want to be rude, obnoxious, or degrading in front of a woman you are interested
in. Do not talk about old girlfriends, do not make rude or sexual comments, and don’t
criticize her or put her down. A woman won’t respond well to a man who is rude to
The fastest way to get rejected is to give a woman no attention or to give her negative
attention. She needs to feel relaxed and open around a man if she is going to go out
with him. Remember that you want to get along with a woman you are interested in.
You need her to feel comfortable around you. If she is feeling threatened or
insulted she will not be open to your advances. Never insult her, belittle her, or hurt
her. This may sound obvious, but never ever do these things if you want to keep
talking to a woman. If you insult her, she will immediately form a negative opinion of
you and become defensive. Your chances with her are non-existent if you don’t show
her respect.
Never look for pity love. Don’t tell her a sob story about how your dog is sick, or
about how you just got dumped. Women don’t respect a man who looks for pity love.
In her eyes, you are trying to use an unfortunate circumstance to get into her bed.
Women have no patience for this behavior. Women also don’t have patience for pickup lines like "Do you come here often?" A woman wants to feel that you are
interested in her, not just any woman.
In addition, you should never say negative things about yourself. Use this time to
show her all you have to offer. You want her to be attracted to you. Never verbalize
submission – don’t apologize, don’t whine, don’t complain, and don’t criticize
yourself or what you do. If she asks you what you do for a living, never say, "Oh,
I’m just a _____." By using the word "just" you are telling her that you aren’t proud

of what you do. She will get the impression that you lack confidence, and she will see
this as a negative characteristic. You have to be relaxed and confident when you talk
to a woman. You want her to see your positive traits so that she will be interested in
getting to know you better.

Remember That…
Every time you engage in a conversation with a new prospect, you will be trying to
get her vitals. You also need to find out if she is actually single, and if she is looking
to meet someone. Most women will give you an honest answer if you ask her if she is
single. You also should use comments in the conversation to clearly indicate that you
are single. You don’t want to waste your time on a girl who isn’t looking for the same
thing as you are. If she keeps talking to you, she is probably interested in you.
However, watch out for women who are just out to boost their egos by leading on
guys. These women enjoy the thrill of the chase but they have no intentions on
following through on their actions. It is often difficult to spot these women, but here
are a few clues to watch for: she is wearing a wedding ring; she seems to be flirting
with and picking up several men in a short time; her gestures are flirty but not sexual;
or she refuses to give her number when you ask.
During a conversation you need to balance asking questions and sharing information.
Listen and pay attention to what she tells you, and be sure share your interests,
passions and goals with her. You want to show this woman that you are sensitive and
caring. It’s okay to appear vulnerable if it will help you get a woman into bed. It is
natural to feel anxious when talking to an attractive woman for the first time. Just
behave the way you would during your first day at a new job - listen, smile and be
agreeable. If you are nervous it is better to tell her you are nervous than to continually
fidget with your straw or a napkin. Don’t be afraid to use comedy to ease tension. If
you stumble on your words, make a joke about being so nervous around her that you
can’t even talk. Just try to laugh it off.
When you meet a woman and are trying to have a good conversation with her, allow
it to flow naturally. Don’t try to steer the conversation too soon. Just relax and enjoy
talking to the woman in front of you. If you try to rush the conversation you may
appear desperate, in which case you won’t get her number. You want to project
confidence and have fun.
Be sure of yourself, relax , have fun and show your interest.

Chapter 9: How To Successfully Approach
Approaching women doesn’t have to be difficult. You might think that there are a
million different things to know about your approach, but that isn’t the case. It is true
that there are many different situations where you could approach a woman but these
situations share a number of factors. It is possible to break down all the possible
ways to approach women into a few basic techniques. This chapter describes these
approach techniques, as well as other considerations to keep in mind when trying to
pick up a woman.

Recognize the Opportunity
It’s been said before - anytime and anywhere is the right time and the right place to
meet a woman. You are surrounded by endless opportunities to approach women; you
just need to see them all! Each time you notice an attractive woman crossing your
path, be aware that this may be the only time you’ll ever see her.
You must initiate a conversation, build a trustful connection, and get her vitals!
If you want to see a woman again, you have to act quickly on the situation. Learn to
recognize all the opportunities how to take advantage of them. You will learn how
easy it is to turn a brief encounter into a telephone number and a date.

Icebreakers and Success Makers
The best icebreaker is saying "Hi" with a smile. Simple, yet true. Once you start a
conversation, you should say something that will encourage further response from
her. The next line should be a statement or a question that shows interest in her. You
could compliment her, or comment on something she is wearing or carrying.
Whatever your approach, it will likely fall into one of four basic approach techniques.
These techniques are defined below for you to learn and practice. Adapt these
suggestions to your personal style, and do what you feel comfortable with. Use these
techniques together or separately to get the success you want.

1. Use a Compliment
Every woman needs to feel appreciated. An honest compliment is an easy way to
show your appreciation for her and the care she takes to look good. Compliment her
outfit, her hair, her eyes, or her manicured fingernails - something specific about her
that you are attracted to. A compliment can work great for opening conversation with
a woman as long as you put some thought into it. You do not want to sound cheesy or
pre-rehearsed. You also don’t want to give her a compliment that she may have
already heard. Get creative and personal with your compliments.
Use something that she is doing or wearing to personalize the compliment.
When you see a woman you want to talk to, look at her carefully. Notice something
about her that you like, and tell her what you like about it. Be truthful when you
compliment her - women can sense sincerity.
When you are figuring out what to say as a compliment you should think of these
three structures: use an analogy, follow a compliment with a question, or ask her
about what she does. When making an analogy try to compare her to another object.
Tell her that her lips or her eyes remind you of something. Or, tell her that the blue in
her shirt brings out her eyes. If you are going to follow a compliment with a question
notice something about her and figure out if there is anything that you might like to
know. For example, if she is wearing a St. Christopher is she religious? If she is
wearing a unique ring ask her if she picked it out, or if it is an heirloom.
The third structure is to compliment what she does. If you meet her in her workplace,
and she is doing a phenomenal job, then tell her you are impressed. If she works with
children or she volunteers somewhere tell her that you admire the time she spends
helping others.
It is important to notice something about her, and not to use a general come-on
No matter what type of compliment you decide to give her, be sure to personalize it.
It helps to memorize a few generic lines and tailor them to the woman you are talking
to at the time.

2. Use a Conversation Piece
This type of comment or question involves observing her, and her possessions and
drawing a conclusion - correct or incorrect, it doesn’t matter - and using it to start a
conversation with a woman. Always look at the woman you are interested in to see

if she is wearing or carrying anything you could comment on. This could be a
book, a briefcase, a gym bag, a shopping bag, or anything! Use this object to strike up
a conversation. Ask which gym she works out at, or if she would recommend the
book she is reading. If she is sporting a company logo ask how she is affiliated with
that company. If she is wearing a unique piece of jewelry ask her about it. Is it an
heirloom? What stone is it? If you meet a woman in your office building and she is
carrying a briefcase, or papers, then ask her if she works in the building.
Using a conversation piece as an icebreaker can be very effective and can be used
anywhere. It is especially good if you briefly meet a woman, as you can adapt it to
any location. If you keep probing her for information, and time runs out, then you
have the opportunity to ask her to lunch. Ask for her number, or give her your card.

3. Discuss the Situation
Another aspect to consider is where you are, or the event you are both attending.
Using location to open a conversation is already personalized because you are
both in the same place. If it is a party, you can always talk about someone else maybe there is one very drunk guy who is making a fool of himself. Laughing at
other people seems to be a great way to bond.
Use a comment about the current situation to call attention to the fact that you are
both "here now!" If you refer back to the list of places and activities given in Chapter
5 Where Women Can Be Found, you will notice that the middle column is a list of
places that would indicate a common interest. If you are both at a sports event,
comment on the game. If you are at an Art Gallery, point out that you both like the
same painting. Meeting a woman at a place such as those listed is a suitable situation
to point out that you share an interest.
If you are in a situation where you don’t know anyone, and you see a woman you’d
really like to meet then walk over to her. Be honest about your attraction. Tell her that
you want to meet her, but you don’t know anyone to introduce you. Then introduce
yourself and start a conversation. You have nothing to lose by introducing yourself to
a woman. Once you start the conversation keep in mind your objective to get her
vitals and then ask questions to get the information you need.

4. Ask Her a General Question
Tried, tested, and trued. This technique is a simple, effective way to engage in
conversation with an attractive woman. Look at the woman you want to talk to and
ask her any question - from "Do you have the time?" to "How do you like the snow?"
(Weather permitting, of course!) It is better to ask a good question to which you

might actually need the answer. You could ask her where a certain restaurant is, or
how to find the nearest bank. Any kind of question could be used to approach a
woman, but the more you can relate it to the situation, the better off you’ll be. You
can combine this technique with any other and it will be even more effective.
You can use questions as general or as specific as you like.
You don’t have to be a smooth talker to get a woman to respond with this approach.
Even if you don’t actually need the information, asking a question will open the door
to further communication.

Summarizing Your Approach
Whichever approach you use, remember to personalize your approach. Women want
to feel appreciated, so pay attention. When you personalize a comment or a question,
she’ll take note of your attentiveness and she will hopefully accept your invitation to
chat. Once you break the ice with a woman, you need to get her phone number to
ensure future communication. Chapter 10 How to Get and Execute a Date will
explore in depth the next steps of dating.

Chapter 10: How To Get And Execute A Date
Once you start a conversation with a woman, you need to get her vitals. (You know
all about getting her vitals from Chapter 8.) The most important piece of information
to get is a means of future communication. You need to be able to get in touch with
this woman to set up a date with her! Usually this means her number, either work or
home. You can also consider asking for her email address, her location of work, or
any other information that will help you contact her again soon. You will call her or
visit her at work, or go to the same café that she frequents in hopes of seeing her. For
the purposes of our discussions, I will primarily refer to her means of contact as her
phone number.
To give out personal information, a woman needs to see a possible future with you.
You need to impress this woman, talk to her and ask for her number. Once you get
her number you have to know how to handle the phone call, the first date, and any
subsequent dates. This chapter will help you make as few mistakes as possible when
getting and executing a date. If you can master the art of getting a telephone number,
then you are on the right track to getting all the women you could ever want!

Basic Considerations
Before you start walking up to women and asking them out, there are a few things
you should know first. Here are some basic considerations to keep in mind when
asking for a number, calling a woman, and asking her out for a date. These concerns
are often overlooked because men don’t often consider these important points. This
section will also address concerns that come up during the dating process. Take a
good read through this material and make sure you don’t make any of the
avoidable mistakes.

Prove You Are Trustworthy
Before a woman gives out her number to any man, she must be able to trust him. You
should try to reassure her that you a normal, honest, hardworking guy who is worthy
of her trust. Always offer your name in your introduction, and ask hers if she doesn’t
offer it in her immediate reply. Try to use her name in the next couple of sentences to
show her that you are courteous and attentive.
In your conversation, allude to your stable job, your involvement in a local sports
team, or your family values if possible. You could tell her that you are exhausted
from your soccer practice last night, or invite her out to a game on the weekend. Tell

her you were visiting your parents on the weekend. Say anything (with some truth to
it!) that will portray you as a sound, stable man. You want her to see you as a man
worth getting to know - responsible, legitimate, and trustworthy. Reassure her that
you are a decent guy before you ask for her number, so she is sure to agree.

Use a Business Card
An excellent way to establish credibility right away is to offer a woman your business
card. This indicates stability and it is a way for her to verify what you tell her. If you
tell her that you work in the same building, then present your business card, you
establish trust. She will know right away if you are being honest. A business card is a
little classier, too, when writing down a woman’s number. You will never again
have to dig through your pockets or your wallet looking for a scrap piece of paper. If
you don’t already have a business card, get some made up. If you don’t have a job
that warrants a card, you can always make up a humorous occupation, like Lion
Tamer or Breakfast Chef. This could be a great conversation piece, and you could
have some fun with it if you wanted.

Get Her Number, Even if She Has Yours
Despite the fact that you have given a woman your card, you should always try to get
her number. It comes back to the whole initiation thing… she might never call you if
you give her your number, but you will surely make the first move to call her. You
really want to go out with this woman, so you want to ensure you’ll have the chance
to set up a date with her. Get her number.

Be Confident in Your Approach
When it comes right down to asking for her number, always be self-assured and
direct. Being direct also helps with your credibility. You don't want to be shy when
you make your move. Prove to her that you know what you want, and that what
you want is to take her out. Use simple, straightforward language, make eye
contact, and tell her you want to see her again.

When to Contact Her
You really want to talk to this woman again, but you don't want to seem too eager.
The best time to call a woman is when you said you would call her. If you did not
tell her when you would call her, then the best time to call a woman is within 3
days after getting her number. It might freak her out if you called a woman within
twenty-four hours. Don't call the very next day, unless you had plans to talk. You

want to wait another day for good measure, and then call her after a few days. So, if
you met a woman on Friday or Saturday night, then you would probably call her on
Tuesday. Waiting a full week is usually too long, and a woman will take this as a sign
of disinterest. You want her to know that you are interested, but not desperate.
When you decide to call, you want her to answer. If you have her work number, be
sure to call during her work hours, and not at lunchtime. You want to have the best
chance to get her on the line. If you have her home number, try to call when she will
be home. Be careful not to call too early or too late, though. You don't want to wake
her up. You want her to be in a good mood when you talk to her, so do not annoy her
by calling at some odd hour.
If you phone a woman and you have to leave a message, either on her voicemail or
with a roommate, be sure to keep your message brief. Leave your name and when you
are calling, and say you will call her back. You don't want to leave a detailed
message because then you are relying on her getting the information. If you don't
leave your number, you won't expect her to call you back. This way, there is no
waiting game, and you simply call her again. Always call a woman when you say you
will call her to demonstrate reliability.

Making the Call
When you do finally make the call, and you have her on the line, what are you going
to say? What are your goals of this phone call? It doesn't take much time to make a
few notes to your-self before hand. Write down what you want to say to her before
you call her. It helps to have a guideline for your conversation, especially if you get
flustered and aren't sure what to say next. You should already have an idea for a date
before you call. Allow room for compromise but always have a good suggestion to
start from.
When you decide to pick up the phone to call a woman, you want to make sure that
you won't be distracted. You want to be able to give her your undivided attention.
Make sure the TV, roommates, or other background commotion won't distract you.
Go into a private room and then dial her number. When she answers, make sure the
first thing you do is say who you are. Don't expect a woman to recognize your voice
right away. Say your name, then don't hesitate to remind her where you met. Once
you are beyond introductions, make sure that you aren't interrupting her. You already
know that she wants to talk to you, because she gave you her number, so make sure
that it is a good time for her. You don't want to call during her favorite television
program, or while she's eating dinner, and have her feeling rushed to get off the
phone. You want her to be relaxed so you can have a nice, casual conversation.

Once you re-establish your connection, and make small talk, you want to stick to your
goals of this phone call. You need to ask her out on a date. When you ask her, be
direct and enthusiastic. The best way to ask out a woman is to suggest an activity.
Don't get her to commit to a time just yet - you want to see if she is okay with the
idea first. Suggest going for a hike, or for coffee, and ask her when she would like to
meet to do this. You don't want to be overbearing or bossy. Give the woman some
control so she will have a better feeling about going out with you. Ask her how she
would feel about meeting for coffee, or ask her if she would be interested in checking
out a new restaurant in town for lunch on the weekend.
Once she accepts your invitation, the two of you can work out a mutual time to meet.
Don't be offended if it's not right away. Remember that this woman has her own life,
and she may be very busy. Once you agree when you will go out, be sure to figure out
when and where you will meet. If you agree to pick her up, you should always phone
before you leave to make sure you know where she lives. If you plan to meet
somewhere, it doesn't hurt to call earlier that day to confirm the place and time. This
will show her that you are looking forward to your date and that you will be there on
By this point, your conversational goals should be attained. You have talked to her,
you have got her thinking about you, and you have got a commitment for a date. This
is the time to wrap up the phone call; you don't want to drag out this first
conversation. Save the getting-to-know-each-other talk for when you are together.
Maintain control of the situation and let her know you have to get going, but that you
are really looking forward to your date.

Your First Date
This is the first real opportunity to get to know this woman. You want to be involved
in a casual and fun activity that allows interaction with her. You want to find out if
she is someone you'd like to go out with again. She will be figuring out that same
thing, so you want to be yourself. Don't be overly emotional, or romantic. At this
point you want to be cute, and allude to your willingness to get involved. Don't pick
her up in a limo and present her with a dozen roses, dinner at an expensive restaurant
and a serenaded dance in the moonlight. This only works in the movies. In real life it
would likely scare a woman away.
Don't go overboard or spend too much money on the first date. Use this date to feel
the connection between you. This is when you are building a relationship with her.
You want to find out more about this woman and what you have in common. You
need to relax and be comfortable around her and evaluate her potential. Decide if you
want to see her again, or if one date is enough with this woman. You don't want to

waste time and money taking out a woman that you don't want or won't have fun
If you are really interested in this woman, then you can work on building sexual
chemistry, however, for your first date you don't want to be too forward with your
sexual interest. You want to flirt with her, and give her attention, but you don't want
to offend her with sexual advances! If you really like her, show her through subtle
gestures like putting your hand on her back while she walks slightly ahead of you, or
by giving her shoulder massage. Just take the time to check her out.
Do not pressure a woman to become sexual too soon.
If you are looking for a one-night stand then you should probably change your
approach and your expectations. All good things come to those who wait; this is true
for the good women, too. You have to understand that a woman with morals and/or
values will want to trust a man and get to know him before going to bed with him.

Where to Go on a Date
An active approach to the first date usually works well for personal interaction and
comfort levels. If you are both having fun then you'll both be more receptive to the
other person. The better time you have with her on the first date, the more time she
will want to spend with you in the future. This section suggests a few great first date
places, but you are by no means bound by or limited to these activities. The more fun
you can have creating an awesome date the better. The woman you are interested in
will notice any effort you make to ensure a fun time.
Go for coffee. This suggestion is a trendy pick-up line in itself. It is a date, but it isn't
formal. You both can be relaxed and you will be in a familiar environment. You can
go to a restaurant, a café, or a popular coffee shop. It's a great opportunity to talk and
get to know each other with high comfort levels. You want a woman to feel at ease
around you. Another good thing about meeting for coffee is the opportunity to
continue your date. If you are both having a really good time, you can suggest another
activity like going for a walk.
Go out for drinks. This is also a pretty common first date activity. It usually means a
later date, likely after dinner, and the setting can be a little more intimate. Though this
sounds silly, going for drinks on a first date is a good way to relax and open up.
Consuming alcohol usually allows people to feel less reserved, so a few drinks can
make for a more personal conversation. Careful not to get drunk though, or you may
lose you inhibitions all together and make a fool of yourself. Usually 2-3 drinks is a

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